Hello, I am a marital therapist, communications trainer and author. I have thirty-five years helping couples and individuals make better relationships. I have written twenty-plus self-help books which include the international best-sellers ‘I love you but I’m not in love with you’ and ‘How can I ever trust you again?’ My books have been translated into twenty languages. I trained with RELATE the UK’s largest counselling charity. Perhaps it has been turning sixty but I have become interested ...
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Dr. Ralph Piedmont: The Big 5 Personality Types and how they Affect Your Behaviour
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53:57What is personality? Can it change over time? How does our personality influence the ways we find meaning in our lives? DR RALPH PIEDMONT has spent decades answering these questions; training under the original developers of the Big Five personality model, and focusing also on the spiritual and transcendent dimensions that give life deeper meaning.…
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Robert Jackman: Healing Your Lost Inner Child
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50:13If you often feel depressed, anxious, victimised or disappointed, you may be carrying a heavy load of unresolved emotional pain. Psychotherapist and author Robert Jackman suggests that this pain, and associated patterns of behaviour, often stem from our lost inner child. This inner child brings with him or her a false narrative; played on repeat. P…
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Susan Schwartz: Can Narcissists Find Love?
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44:20Are narcissists capable of love? Is it possible for them to achieve emotional transformation through therapy? And what does it mean to be the partner of a narcissist? Jungian psychoanalyst and friend of the podcast DR SUSAN SCHWARTZ joins Andrew this week to discuss her new book, An Analytical Exploration of Love and Narcissism: The Tragedy of Isol…
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Jan Day: Tantra: How to Make Your Lovemaking More Connected
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49:09How can we have more meaningful, connected sex? Many couples today are stuck in a low-sex or no-sex dynamic, while others struggle to break a routine that feels unbearably dull. In this classic reissued episode, Jan Day, a relationship expert and psycho-spirital teacher, discusses “Living Tantra”. Andrew and Jan cover how to “resensitise” in a worl…
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Diana Hill: Stuck? How To Get Yourself Unstuck
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45:25If you’re feeling exhausted and unmotivated, clinical psychologist and author Dr Diana Hill suggests that you may be channelling your energy in the wrong direction. Many of us feel that we do too much, and yet get nowhere - this is because we are misdirecting the precious resource of our energy. In this episode, Andrew and Diana discuss: The high-a…
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Dr. Kathleen Smith: Make Anxiety Your Friend
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52:09If you could write a letter to your own anxiety, what would it say? This is just one of the ways therapist Dr Kathleen Smith befriends her anxiety and in the process, moves it into the back seat of her life. If you can’t sleep, can’t focus and are constantly pushing down the frustrations you experience in your relationships, you will know that you …
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Soren Gordhamer: How to Thrive in the Age of Artificial Intelligence
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53:35With the help of artificial intelligence (AI), we now know almost everything there is to know: except perhaps who we are and actually what matters to us. With notifications pinging and algorithms grabbing our attention, THAT kind of clarity perhaps feels even harder to find. In this episode, author and entrepreneur SOREN GORDHAMER discusses with An…
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Ruth Ann Harpur: Narcissism: Helpful Diagnosis, or a Trap?
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56:01“Narcissist” has become the insult of choice for many of us caught on the wrong side of arrogance, self-absorption or monotonous bragging. Narcissism is more complex than that, however, and an empathetic understanding of it can make it much easier to deal with partners or family members with narcissistic traits, or with full-blown narcissistic pers…
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Peter Ralston: Ending Unnecessary Suffering
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49:04Many of us believe that suffering is inevitable. We endure the inner turmoil associated with stress, shame, depression or loneliness and try to soldier on. Author PETER RALSTON believes, however, that most suffering can be avoided. In this week’s episode, Andrew and Peter discuss the dynamics of the mind that set the stage for distress and get us i…
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Kathryn Mannix: How to Listen, Really Listen
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1:06:00Most of us have a conversation we’re avoiding: a child coming out to their parent, a family losing someone to terminal illness, a friend noticing early signs of dementia. There are moments when we simply must talk, listen and be there for one another. DR KATHRYN MANNIX, a consultant in palliative care medicine, has spent her career having what she …
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Jessa Fairbrother: Into the Void: Dealing with Pain When There's No Happy Ending
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55:03At some point in our lives, we all step into the void. Something so big happens that we struggle even to make sense of it. This week Andrew is in conversation with artist JESSA FAIRBROTHER about finding our way through the pain of these unwanted experiences without getting trapped in repeating loops. We discuss: How grief over the loss of her paren…
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Malcolm Stern: Slay Your Dragons with Compassion
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50:56Are you being held back by darker moments from your past? Would you like to find the courage to shine a light on some of the tragic or shameful moments that you don’t like to think about? In this classic reissued episode, author and therapist MALCOLM STERN joins Andrew to discuss his book Slay Your Dragons With Compassion. Malcolm and Andrew talk a…
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Connie Zweig: How We Self-Sabotage: Understanding Your Shadow
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45:17SHADOW is a Jungian concept that refers to those traits we have suppressed in ourselves that may be waiting to find expression in our lives. This week Connie Zweig PhD returns to the podcast to talk about shadow-work for conscious relationships. We explore: How the unconscious erupts in our lives and sabotages our relationships Why we can become ca…
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Graham Johnston & Matt Wotton - Good Boundaries: The Foundation of Happy Relationships
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1:03:38We all know that good boundaries are essential if we want happy relationships. There is a lot of confusion, though, about what exactly a boundary is and how to make it work. Can we have too many boundaries? Should we ever compromise on the boundaries we set? In this week’s classic reissued episode, Andrew talks about boundaries with Graham Johnston…
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Charlotte Fox Weber : Sacred Monsters: Why Certain People Take Up Lifelong Psychic Space
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42:07There are people in our lives who mesmerise but at the same time diminish and damage us. They excite us about the possibilities life holds, while teaching us that we are not worthy of achieving them. Their impact can be so great that for years after we continue trying to replicate the intensity of our time with them, seeing everything through our m…
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William Pullen: Run or Walk Your Way to Better Mental Health
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53:52Throw away your FitBit, stop counting your daily steps, and instead learn to run mindfully. If you can find the three key elements of space, silence and patience, you’ll be far more able to tackle big problems at work and at home. William Pullen is a psychotherapist who helps clients using his revolutionary method of Dynamic Running Therapy. His wo…
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Ross G. White: Psychological Flexibilty
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59:18There’s no one set of rules that will see us through. Psychologist and author PROFESSOR ROSS G. WHITE works instead on the concept of psychological flexibility. If we have flexible habits and mindset, we can navigate life’s inevitable storms with at least a degree of strength and grace. Ross believes that just as martial arts like jiu-jitsu train s…
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Robert Hopcke: Synchronicity: Meaningful Coincidences: How to Spot Them & Use Them to Grow
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1:00:41Have you ever experienced a strange, inexplicable coincidence that left you feeling “like a grand, mysterious character in a story?” One that seemed to suggest a particular relationship was “meant to be”, or, on the flipside, that it was time to let go? In this week’s classic episode, Andrew talks to Jungian analyst ROBERT HOPCKE about synchronicit…
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Richard Blake: The Transformative Power of Breathwork
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42:35Could changing the rhythm of your breath offer the breakthrough you’ve been looking for? This week, Andrew talks to psychologist and breathwork expert Dr. Richard Blake—known as The Breath Geek—about the profound impact that conscious breathing can have on mental and physical health. Together, Andrew and Richard discuss: How breathwork can reduce a…
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Venus O’Hara plans to change the world, one orgasm at a time. She believes women are equally as sexual as men, and should have the time and space to embrace their multi-orgasmic potential. Venus is a British orgasm activist, author and feminist based in Barcelona. She has a hugely popular YouTube channel on which she discusses the female orgasm and…
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Jack Bohannan: Deal Better With Criticism
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49:26Can you criticise your partner without starting a flaming row, or causing them to retreat into a wounded silence? If not, you’re not alone. Many of us struggle for years to find a way to manage relationship conflict in an honest, constructive spirit. This week, Andrew discusses the secrets of better conflict with relationship coach JACK BOHANNON. A…
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Kate Lucey: Depression : What Worked For Me
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48:29So many of us have experienced depression, and if not, we’re likely to have seen people we love battle it. In this week’s classic episode, author KATE LUCEY, who specialises in writing about mental health, talks candidly with Andrew about her own depression and the six-year journey she’s been on since her diagnosis: including physical symptoms and …
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Polly Young-Eisendrath: Why Conflict is Necessary
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50:53Most of us dislike or even fear conflict with loved ones. Without it, however, you won't achieve sustained intimacy with your partner. This week, Andrew talks to writer, psychologist and Jungian analyst Polly Young-Eisendrath, the author of Love Between Equals: Relationship as a Spiritual Path. They explore the challenges and possibilities of build…
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Are you one of the many people who end up shocked by the ultimate similarity of romantic relationships that felt very different starting out? Why is it that we find the same patterns repeating, the same problems coming up over and over? In this classic episode, Andrew talks to author and attachment theory specialist Tara Blair-Ball. Tara explains h…
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Bisexuality and Sexual Fluidity: How to be Yourself in Intimate Relationships
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51:24What does it mean to be truly seen and accepted in your sexuality? For those who identify as bisexual—or who experience sexual fluidity—the path to self-understanding and relational honesty can be filled with challenges, uncertainty, and social stigma. This week, Andrew talks with DIANE HASSALL, a Relationship and Psychosexual Psychotherapist, abou…
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Kate Moyle: Improving your Body Image and Your Love Life
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51:36How can we learn to be at ease in our bodies so that we can be fully “in the moment” during sex? Anxiety about body image is one of the biggest obstacles to a happy, fulfilled sex life. Many people seek therapy to help them relax and enjoy sex with their partner, others struggle on in low-sex or no-sex relationships. In this classic episode, Andrew…
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Penny Wincer: How to Care Without Burning Out
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48:04Society would grind to a halt without the work done by unpaid carers - yet they are too often left to feel invisible, unsupported and alone. In this episode, Andrew talks to PENNY WINCER, the author of Tender: The Imperfect Art of Caring, about how to provide care for loved ones without burning out yourself. Penny shares her deeply personal story o…
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Tom Vanderbilt: The Beginner's Mind
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43:18When did you last learn to do something totally and utterly new? Tom Vanderbilt, author of Beginners: the Joy and Transformative Power of Lifelong Learning, was awestruck by his young daughter’s insatiable need to know how to do almost everything. He was inspired by her to embark on a year of learning purely for its own sake. Tom had a truly unique…
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Judith Orloff: How To Be More Empathetic
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50:18In a world that often rewards toughness and detachment, could empathy actually be a hidden superpower? This week, Andrew speaks with psychiatrist and bestselling author Dr. Judith Orloff about how empathy can become one of the most powerful tools for healing, personal growth and connection. Drawing on neuroscience, psychology, and energy medicine, …
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Today, the “four pale horsemen” of war, famine, pestilence and death have broken into our comfortable lives once again. As the climate emergency and shortage become normalised, how do we live through crisis after crisis without falling into fear and anxiety on the one hand, or agitated reaction and rage on the other? Do we face the horsemen, go int…
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Michele Weiner-Davis: When is it Time to Stop Working on Your Marriage?
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57:21Have you tried everything to fix your relationship, but nothing seems to work? Are you torn between staying and giving it one more try, or finally walking away? This week, Andrew talks with renowned couples therapist MICHELE WEINER-DAVIS about how to navigate one of the hardest decisions in a relationship: When is it time to stop trying? Michele is…
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Philip Carr Gomm: How to Live Authentically
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50:24Are you living a life you really believe in, or are you filling in time until your “real life” begins? Are you waiting on marriage, a better job, a new exercise regime or a beautiful house to create an authentic life? Humans do need to have goals and plans, but it is also destructive to ignore those inner voices telling us what would bring us indiv…
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Carolyn Sharp: Keep the Spark Alive in Your Relationship
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45:20How do you keep the spark alive in your relationship when there are kids involved and you have ten, twenty, or thirty years on the clock? This week I talk to CAROLYN SHARP, a US-based marital therapist, and the author of Fire It Up: Four Secrets to Reigniting Intimacy and Joy in Your Relationship. We cover: Purpose: could you define a purpose for y…
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Simon Roe: Are You Leading a Life of Quiet Desperation?
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50:35“The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation. What is called resignation is confirmed desperation” (Henry Thoreau). In this classic episode, Andrew interviews therapist SIMON ROE. Simon has based his life’s work on helping men live an authentic life. After himself going through a period of quiet desperation in his mid-thirties, he went on to he…
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Evan Marc Katz: Why Can't I Find Lasting Love?
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42:29Many women long to be in a happy relationship, in which they feel safe, heard and understood, but have given up after years of disappointment and heartbreak. This week dating coach EVAN MARC KATZ joins Andrew to discuss why it’s so hard for women to find a man who wants to commit and to build a genuine relationship. They cover: How to get psycholog…
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For Andrew, it is the writings of Dr James Hollis, one of the world’s most eminent Jungian analysts, that have “sustained me through my dark times”. Dr Hollis’ books also regularly help Andrew’s marital therapy clients create change in their relationships and recover from infidelity. In this classic reissued episode, Andrew speaks to James Hollis a…
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Elizabeth Earnshaw: How to Stop Stress Undermining Your Love for Each Other
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51:44Is your relationship a refuge from stress in a turbulent and demanding world? Do you always have each other’s backs? OR has the stress you face at work or in the culture seeped into your home life and created a rift between you? Marital therapist ELIZABETH EARNSHAW, the author of Til Stress Do Us Part, works with couples to identify and address the…
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Dr. Avrum Weiss: Why Men Withdraw When Women Get Angry
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53:14When women and men argue, women can often be more comfortable in expressing their feelings of hurt and anger. Men can feel distressed by this strength of feeling, and may pull away emotionally. They may feel a very strong urge to occupy the ground of rationality and objectivity, which in turn leads their partner to push harder, desperately seeking …
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Dené Logan: Finding the Balance Within of Your Masculine & Feminine Forces
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49:00Does something feel off about your intimate relationships? According to author and couples therapist Dené Logan, the answer to your problem may lie in the interplay of your masculine and feminine energies. Masculine and feminine polarities are present in every person and relationship. When we’re out of touch with the energetics within ourselves and…
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Charlotte Fox Weber: What Do You Really Want? Why This Question Scares Us
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47:11Life brings to all of us long periods where we feel lost or confused. We don't know how to get what we want, or even what it is that we want. The struggle to articulate the thing that might really make us “come alive” can be profound, even if we enter therapy. Charlotte Fox Weber is a psychotherapist, author and the founding head of The School of L…
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Karla McLaren: How Much Emotion is Too Much?
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47:20If you’re feeling anxious, meditation and mindfulness may not be the answer. Instead, author KARLA McLAREN would advise us to sit with the feelings of anxiety and hear the useful messages they’re bringing to help us cope with a tricky situation. In this episode, Andrew and Karla discuss: How anger, shame and sadness can be the bearers of crucial in…
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Kay Hutchinson: Navigating a Midlife Crisis
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56:56Have you ever felt so defeated and frustrated that you want to just throw in the towel and run away? Author KAY HUTCHISON did exactly that, fleeing her annual holiday to the Cote d’Azur, moving out of her home, and leaving behind her marriage and a well-established career. In seeking to understand what forced this huge rupture in a previously smoot…
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Bryan Reeves: Why Men Resist Unwanted Feelings & How This Hurts Everyone
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54:20Society teaches men that strength lies in ignoring their feelings and “soldiering on”. Author and relationship coach BRYAN REEVES has seen the costs of this approach both in his own personal life and those of his clients. This week Andrew and Bryan discuss: Bryan’s story of finding direction after leaving the US Air Force. The reasons why men resis…
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Do you think about drinking alcohol more than you think about eating sandwiches? Do you spend significant amounts of time thinking about NOT drinking? Or are you one of the many with an uneasy feeling that alcohol is no longer bringing anything good into your life, and may well be holding you back? Therapist and sobriety expert VERONICA VALLI had a…
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Tracey Cox: What We Learned Last Year We'll Be Using This Year
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56:13Where did you find inspiration and meaning in 2024? This week sex therapist and friend of the podcast TRACEY COX joins Andrew to reflect on another year of The Meaningful Life, and to discuss the episodes that meant the most to them. They share highlights from episodes with: Samantha Rodman Whiten (Dr Psych Mom) on Being an Adult Child of Dysfuncti…
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Chester Elton: How Gratitude Can Revolutionise Your Life
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49:10It’s hard to move on social media these days without bumping into a post on gratitude. If you’re wondering what all the fuss is about, this week’s classic interview with Chester Elton, “the apostle of appreciation”, is for you. According to Chester, gratitude cuts to the heart of who we really are. Gratitude exists at an emotional level and is abou…
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Christmas Party: The Best & Worst of Christmas Traditions with Love Coach Cate Mackenzie
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49:38Christmas is a time of heightened emotions: lots of fun, lots of food, plenty of arguments. This year Andrew invites friend of the podcast and love coach CATE MACKENZIE to explore what Christmas means to each of them. Cate and Andrew discuss: Their best and worst Christmas experiences. Christmas traditions that work. Most evocative Christmas songs …
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Ru Callender: Do We Need a New Approach to Funerals?
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54:01Do we need a complete rethink of the rituals we use to mark the end of life? This week Andrew talks to undertaker and author RU CALLENDER about what he’s learnt over the course of his career. Ru Callender became an undertaker in order to offer people a more honest experience than the stilted formality of traditional ‘Victorian’ funerals. Driven by …
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Dilip Jeste: Wisdom: Five Ways to Become Wiser
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53:13What does it mean to be wise? Do we grow in wisdom as we age? Pioneering neuropsychiatric researcher Dr Dilip Jeste has spent years investigating the biological and cognitive roots of wisdom. In this reissued classic episode, Andrew and Dilip discuss what we mean when we talk about wisdom, and whether we can, in fact, grow wiser. Dilip describes wh…
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Joseph Lee: What Your Dreams Are Trying to Tell You
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1:28:44What if the answers you’re looking for in your life were available to you every night, if only you could learn to pay attention to your dreams? This week Andrew welcomes to the podcast the eminent psychoanalyst and This Jungian Life co-host JOSEPH LEE, co-author of the new book Dream Wise: Unlocking the Meaning of Your Dreams. Andrew and Joseph dis…
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