Struggling with jealousy, insecurity, or self-doubt? You're not alone. Join Pattern Transformation Expert Shanenn Bryant as she combines humor, hard-won wisdom, and practical strategies to help you break free from the patterns keeping you stuck. From 2 AM social media stalking sessions to second-guessing yourself at work, each episode tackles the real struggles women face with jealousy, insecurity and confidence. Shanenn draws from her experience and expertise in attachment theory to help wo ...
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Jealousy is a complex emotion that can affect anyone in any relationship. It can cause tension, mistrust, and misunderstandings between partners. But the good news is that jealousy can be overcome and even cured with the right techniques and support. In this podcast series, we will explore the nature of jealousy, how it can arise in relationships, and what we can do to overcome it. We will delve into the different types of jealousy, including retroactive jealousy, and discuss how it can affe ...
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A Nervous System Reset For Jealousy EP 113
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33:46In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn unpacks one of the most misunderstood truths about jealousy: it doesn’t start in your mind—it starts in your body. If you’ve ever told yourself “I’m just going to think positive thoughts” or “I’ll be chill tonight”—only to spiral the moment your partner picks up their phone—then go ahead and hit play now. Shanen…
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Unhealthy Thought Patterns And How To Spot Them w/ Amy Kemp EP 112
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32:57In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with thought habit strategist and author Amy Kemp to unpack one of the most damaging patterns women struggle with—tying our self-worth to performance. From subconscious thought loops to resentment signals, Amy shares the surprising truth behind why we feel exhausted, unseen, and over-obligated—and what…
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5 Daily Gratitude Habits to Quiet Anxiety and Reclaim Joy w/ Dr. Peggy DeLong EP 111
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29:57In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with clinical psychologist and gratitude expert Dr. Peggy DeLong known as The Gratitude Psychologist to explore how gratitude can be a lifeline in life’s hardest seasons. Whether you’re navigating grief, anxiety, or emotional overwhelm, Peggy shares the science and soul behind why gratitude is most pow…
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Detach From These If You Want Love, Peace, And Clarity w/ Bob Rosen EP 110
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31:26In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with psychologist, leadership advisor, and author Bob Rosen to explore what it really means to let go—not of people, but of the stories, fears, and beliefs that silently run your life. Whether you’re obsessively checking your partner’s texts, chasing success but never feeling satisfied, or stuck in pai…
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Are You Guilty Of This Common Habit That Destroys Relationships w/ Jessica Higgins EP 109
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45:35In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with relationship and communication expert Dr. Jessica Higgins to unpack one of the sneakiest relationship saboteurs: criticism. Whether you’re nitpicking over the garage door or bottling resentment until it explodes, criticism can quietly damage your emotional connection. Dr. Higgins breaks down why w…
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You Can't Control Others But THIS Question Will Change Everything w/ Leah Lemberg 108
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34:34In this powerful episode of Top Self, host Shanenn Bryant sits down with Leah Lemberg, who shares her remarkable journey from growing up in an alcoholic home to becoming 16 years sober and helping others transform their lives. From IV drug use at 18 to finding sobriety and purpose, Leah's story offers hope and practical wisdom for anyone struggling…
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Uninstall Your Triggers w/ Dr. Greg Stewart EP 107
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34:35In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with Dr. Greg Stewart, counselor, executive coach, and author to explore why insecurity might be the most valuable emotion we experience. Dr. Stewart shares his powerful framework for understanding emotional triggers and reveals how owning our insecurities can be the key to personal freedom. From his c…
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Reframing Friction For Relationship Growth w/ Dr. Rachel Glik EP 106
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29:32In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with Dr. Rachel Glik, a licensed professional counselor with over 30 years of experience as a couples and individual therapist. Dr. Glik shares insights from her new book "Soulful Marriage: Healing your Relationship with Responsibility, Growth, Priority, and Purpose," offering her thoughts on how to nu…
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The Jealousy Scale - From OK to No Way: A We're Not Fine & Top Self Collaboration EP 105
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56:03🤣 🤣 Get ready to laugh your way through relationship real talk! In this episode, we're joined by the hilarious duo from the "We're Not Fine" podcast - relationship therapist Dr. Talia Jackson and Doug Jensen - for an unfiltered discussion about those "Is this normal?" relationship questions. Shanenn, Talia, and Doug dive into: The great memorabilia…
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The Sneaky Way Your Past is Picking Your Partners w/ Dr. Christie Kederian EP 104
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39:23❤️ The Date Doctor is Here! In this episode of Top Self, we sit down with Dr. Christie Kederian, renowned relationship therapist, former eHarmony matchmaker, and author of the upcoming book "Ten Dates to Your Soulmate." Dr. K shares her expert insights on building healthy relationships, understanding family dynamics, and navigating the modern datin…
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Get Rid Of This Survival Skill EP 103
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28:00In this powerful episode, Shanenn opens up about childhood trauma and how it shapes our relationship behaviors through hypervigilance. Episode Highlights The development of hypervigilance as a childhood survival skill How childhood experiences with alcoholic parents can create heightened threat detection systems Why hypervigilance often gets mistak…
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How To Be Happy w/ Tia Graham Ep 102
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22:04Wanna know the science behind being happier? Check out this week's episode with Tedx speaker and happiness expert Tia Graham. Tia Graham shares some powerful stuff about choosing happiness, managing triggers, and transforming childhood trauma. From practical happiness frameworks to deeply personal stories about motherhood and healing, this episode …
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Ever caught yourself having a meltdown or giving your partner the cold shoulder because you're feeling insecure? (Been there, done that!) In this follow-up to our conversation with Dr. Brittany McGeehan, we're going in hard on a game-changing truth: the only person who can't abandon you is yourself. Get ready for some fiery talk about self-trust, v…
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Stop Acting Like His Mother w/ Dr. Brittany McGeehan Ep: 100
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31:45This episode is fire! 🔥 In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn talks with Dr. Brittany McGeehan, who dropped a major truth bomb that made her stop everything: You’ll have to hit play to hear it. This may be the only thing you need to hear today! Dr. McGeehan, a licensed psychologist and performance coach specializing in empowering high-achieving fema…
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Shanenn understands how deeply our patterns are embedded in every corner of our existence. It turns out that relationship anxiety isn't just an isolated phenomenon – it's part of a larger tapestry of how we navigate life's complexities. What We're Diving Into: The revelation that your inner critic has apparently developed a rather impressive portfo…
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What will you be thinking ONE YEAR from now? Will it be the same thoughts you're having today? Will you're focus be on the same things? In this episode, we explore how your life could look totally different one year from now and why your thoughts might be your biggest obstacle to change. Shanenn gives an example of what she calls "heavy thinking" o…
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Why Shame Is Sabotaging Your Relationship (and what to do instead) EP 97
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14:25🎁 Only a few days left to claim your "Pay-What-You-Can" Coaching Session with me. This episode talks about the crucial difference between guilt and shame, and why one might be secretly sabotaging your relationship growth. Shanenn shares: • How guilt is like your relationship GPS - letting you know when you've made a wrong turn, while shame is more …
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The Connection Formula: Are You Wasting Your Time Worrying? Ep 96
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35:50Do you enjoy how you're currently spending your time? Do you feel like you use your time wisely? When I am insecure and jealous, I don't! When you're feeling jealous, most likely you are spending your very precious time thinking about your partner rather than spending it on things that bring you joy, not a stomach ache. In this episode, Shanenn and…
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Why Your "Everyone Cheats On Me" Story Might Be More Fiction Than Fact Ep 95
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20:50Ever felt like you're starring in your own personal soap opera where every relationship ends with infidelity? Host Shanenn Bryant unpacks her own journey from "everyone cheats on me" to "huh, maybe I should check my math" in this eye-opening episode. Key Takeaways: A shocking 50% of our memories aren't even accurate (Thanks, Dr. Joe Dispenza, for t…
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The 'Just So You Know I Know' Protection Strategy EP 94
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22:05Ever catch yourself saying "just so you know, I know what you COULD be doing" to your partner... even when you're pretty sure they're innocent? In this episode, Shanenn's calling you out when she gets into why we sometimes choose accusation over acceptance, even when our rational brain is screaming the obvious. THE HEART OF IT The moment your logic…
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Why You Control And How To Let Go Of It w/ Joanna Kleinman EP 93
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32:32🎙️ Where my freaks at? Control Freaks that is. In this episode, we dive deep with psychologist and author Joanna Kleinman to unpack why that voice in your head is working harder than a barista during morning rush hour. Shanenn and Joanna talk about: How your inner critic is just like the mean girl at school when you were growing up and she's been m…
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The #1 Question To Ask Yourself: Am I Being Honest? EP 92
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41:15In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn's guest, award-winning psychologist Dr. Courtney Warren opens up about her own struggles with relationship insecurity and shares her thoughts about the lies we tell ourselves. From crying when her college boyfriend went out with friends to becoming an expert on self-deception, Dr. Warren's personal journey and p…
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How To Recover With Your Partner Quickly After A Jealous Meltdown EP 91
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33:02Feel like your relationship is hanging on by a thread? Do you wonder if too much damage has been done to the relationship? I was there too but you can turn things around. Your relationship can recover from this, but it's might take you going against how you normally feel after an argument to make a difference. It may take you recovering quickly ins…
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Break Free From The Identity Of Jealousy EP 90
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27:55🎉 Special Announcement: Join our FREE Two-Day Self-Discovery Workshop! Dates: November 4th & 5th at 1:00 pm ET Register at: topself.com/workshop I'm talking about you on this week's episode. The REAL you. Often we think we have to transform into someone else to overcome jealousy and insecurity and that seems like a huge feat to become your future s…
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Feeling needy? Do you feel like you're high-maintenance and your constantly asking for things from your partner to make you feel better? It has everything to do with your core wounds and your relationship to self. In this episode, Shanenn share's her acronym S.E.L.F to learn how to identify your personality needs and how to self-source those needs.…
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Why Your Friends Don't Freak Out Like You w/ Jessica DaSilva EP 88
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32:37How we attach in relationships is everything! That's why we talk about it so much on the podcast and this episode is full of attachment style nuggets you're not going to want to miss. This week, Shanenn has none other than licensed marriage and family therapist and attachment coach Jessica DaSilva. Jessica not only shares her own experiences as a f…
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What You're Doing Isn't Working and Here's Why EP 87
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26:27If you've been feeling like you are not strong enough to conquer this jealousy thing or you just dont have what it takes to change your life around, I'm here to tell you, that's not it. That's not why so stop beating yourself up. You may just being going about it in the wrong way. In this episode, Shanenn talks about the struggles of managing jealo…
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Why Your Relationship Hasn't Changed w/ Abby Haverman EP 86
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29:53Ever been caught in the whirlwind of 'should I or shouldn't I?' when it comes to relationships? This episode takes a deep dive into the life-changing realization that the real question isn't about what to do, but about who you want to be. Do you want to be a jealous, anxious person or someone who trusts and opens their heart? Tune in to learn how s…
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The one thing I hear so much is how ashamed you are about being jealous, it actually even affects the growth of this podcast because you don't share it with your friends and family because you don't want them to know you're this way. But I know you don't want to be this way and I also know that unfortunately you feel as ashamed and judgement becaus…
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Recognizing Your Patterns Through Body Talk w/ Michelle Brown EP 84
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29:49In this episode of the Top Self podcast, I talk with Michelle Brown, a functional nutrition and lifestyle practitioner with a specialty in the biology of trauma. Michelle explains how trauma affects the body's nervous system and the importance of addressing both mind and body to heal. This episode is a good reminder that other factors are at play w…
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Financial Trust and Transparency w/ Coaches Shana & Vanessa EP 83
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33:37In this episode, master financial coaches, Shana and Vanessa, who co-host the Financial Coaching for Women podcast, which ranks in the top 1.5% worldwide and stays in the top 10 "How To" podcasts on Apple in the US AND they are on Top Self today to discuss how financial transparency and trust are crucial in relationships. Backed by five years of ha…
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If you are someone who is a recovering alcoholic or thinking about getting sober, you're in the right place my friend. Addiction is tough and I have seen it throughout my family and others families and it can be so destructive. Join myself and Rachel Harrison as she talks a bit about her recovery, how she is different today in many ways other than …
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Today is heavy and you may feel called out a bit and it just might feel uncomfortable. Just like jealousy, this topic may feel shameful too but you are not alone in this either. I'm talking about cheating and not your partner cheating... you cheating. I'll cover possible reasons this might be something you do or have done in the past. Its a short o…
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I am flying solo in today's episode and wanted to discuss just a few takeaways from my last guest Topaz Adizes and our conversation about the questions we ask and why we ask them. It's a quick dump episode but an important one when it comes to communicating with our partners and the reassurance questions we ask over and over again. Schedule your FR…
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Ask Your Partner Better Questions w/ Topaz Adizes EP 79
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33:40Feel like your asking the same questions over and over again to your partner? Does it seem like you already know what you want the answer to be? Wonder why your conversations often seem to escalate when you ask your burning question? Is your partner getting a little on the defensive side and maybe feel like their back is against the wall when answe…
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What's Behind Your Jealous Mind w/ Thais Gibson EP 78
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1:02:59This episode includes LIFE CHANGING information from Thais Gibson, that years from now, you're going to remember listening to it and know it was the pivotal moment that set you on a path of transformation. As a leading figure in personal development, Thais is the co-founder of the Personal Development School and an expert in attachment theory. Wond…
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It Makes Perfect Sense You Feel This Way EP 77
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16:56I absolutely can't stand it when I hear people say "you have to just get over it". Or especially things like.. you're crazy, or you're nuts when they are referring to you being jealous. There is such a stigma around "being jealous" that people seem to just have no tolerance for. Yes, I understand it is not healthy, yes I understand its not somethin…
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The Myth Of Positive Thinking w/ Dr. Eddie O'Connor EP 76
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27:55Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help. You've been told to "Think Positive" so many times in your life and this could be keeping you stuck. According to my guest today, Dr. Eddie O'Connor, a clinical psychologist and host of 'The Psychology of Performance', shares his insights on the detrimental effects of positive thin…
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How To Get What You Need Instead Of Nagging For What You Want w/ Dr. Abby Medcalf EP 75
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29:51Every time you catch yourself nagging from here on out, you're going to remember this episode. I have such a FIRE guest today. Dr. Abby Medcalf, a relationship expert, psychologist, author, podcast host, and TEDx speaker and she delivers some hard core truths in her very no-nonsense kind of way and one of them is... Don't Have A Victim Mentality Re…
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3 Reasons You’re Not Taking This Step >> BONUS EP 74
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25:38The Trust Building Bootcamp is starting soon and if you haven't joined yet, you want to listen to this episode. I had in my head that if there had been something like this available for me when I was going through my jealousy and seeking resources, I would have jumped all over it. And then... just as we learn to do with jealousy, I questioned that …
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The Most Important Relationship You Can Have w/ Katarina Polonska EP 73
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31:30Trigger Warning.... sorta.... Not only is she Oxford trained smart, she's beautiful as well. The talented Katarina Polonska is my guest today and she's talking about the most important relationship of all. The relationship you have with yourself. She shares: the importance of trusting oneself how to start building a healthy relationship with yourse…
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Beauty Beyond Skin Deep w/ Dr. Mary Alice Mina EP 72
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33:46In a world constantly bombarding us with images of youth and perfection, navigating getting older can sometimes feel quite frankly... sad. Dr. Mary Alice Mina, a Harvard-trained dermatologist and I talk about the entire spectrum from changes in our bodies to shifts in our mindset, and how embracing all of it requires a balance of self-care and self…
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Sizzle, sizzle! This is a hot topic and one I hear a lot of drama around and it makes perfect sense of why the ex or mother of your partner's child might be a area of insecurity for you. I tackle the sensitive topics of dealing with ex-partners and the dynamics they play in your relationship try to get you to reconsider how much information needs t…
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3 F's to Dressing and Feeling Confident w/ Jessica Papineau EP 70
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37:11Do you remember the last time you got ready to go somewhere, an event, or to work or to church, or just to hang out with your friends and you felt really good about the way you looked. Like you maybe even said to yourself, I feel good, I look good? It's not about how you look but about how you FEEL and today's guest is an expert at making women fee…
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Overcoming Overthinking And How To Calm Your Anxiety w/ Heather Lillico EP 69
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29:05I know you have a million thoughts going on in your head right now so before you click "play" on this episode really commit to listening to it with as little amount of distractions as possible because in this episode of the Top Self Podcast, I am talking with wellness practitioner Heather Lillico about strategies for managing anxiety, particularly …
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Give Yourself A Break And Your Partner Some Space Ep 68
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29:45A couple weeks ago, my guest Dr. Corey Allen dropped 2 mind-shifting, bombs on the podcast and I was worried that maybe you were in anxiety mode with a swirl of thoughts running through your mind as you were listening and might have missed them. So, I decided to do a whole episode on the 2 nuggets so this time, you really need to concentrate and le…
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Ok, So You've Got Trust Issues w/ Shannon Sauer-Zavala EP 67
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24:45I have a major crush on what today's guest is doing. She is working on a treatment module for trust. Thank goodness for people like clinical psychologist. Shannon Sauer-Zavala. She talks about understanding the function of behavior and that there's a reason you're thinking the way you do. Because people think about trust in a black and white way, s…
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When The Hot And Heavy Turns To Just Heavy w/ Dr. Corey Allen EP 66
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33:36As most of us Jealousy Junkies are clinging on to our partners. Marriage and Sex Therapist Dr. Corey Allen says... a couple's problems could be a result of them being too close. Not leaving room for individuality. I thought this was a really important message I wanted you to hear because it isn't smothering in the way we make it out to be... it mea…
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Meltdown Metrics: Evaluating the Before, During, and After EP 65
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21:24It's so good to be back in the swing of things and to do a solo episode with you. The exercise I share with you in today's episode is one I did as I was starting to notice improvements in myself with my jealousy and I wanted to share it with you. You have to DO the work not just hear about it so make sure to go the show notes or to topself.com/eval…
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