We share an emotional conversation we had wrestling with the question, “Where did the romance go?” Highlights of this episode include: Carolann shares why she married Jon (and it made him lose his breath). We asked each other 2 dangerous questions. Carolann shared how she felt like an emotional kaleidoscope. There is a difference between … Continue…

There are 3 options when your relationship is really bad: Stay where you are (miserable) Do something Separate / Divorce We were at that point at the 3rd year of our marriage. Carolann was feeling like “the other woman.” We knew things were bad and we were both trying to fix the other. One decision … Continue reading 009 – It’s Your Move [Commitmen…

This morning I was really irritated and grumpy with Carolann. In this episode we share how the morning went and how within 10 minutes my grumpiness melted away. In our discussion we reference the book “Love and Respect” by Emerson Eggerichs. It’s available on Amazon (not an affiliate link). Our discussion audio is also on … Continue reading 008 – B…

Today we talk about our principle #1: Staying Connected to God Local church Worshiping Serving Bible reading/listening Individually Together Pray out-loud together Including praying your wedding vows The books by Gary Smalley that we mention are: For Better or for Best: A Valuable Guide to Knowing, Understanding, and Loving your Husband Amazon (not…

One of our “superfans” asked, “What did we do to start, from 0 to 1?” We are not experts, just a couple sharing our journey to inspire and help others. For every person and time the process will be different. Our lives are so complex, we learn different ways, our life experiences There isn’t a … Continue reading 006 – From Zero To One…

24 hours ago, Carolann and I were sitting on the loveseat in a very bad emotional state. She was really angry at me and I was listening to her, feeling lost. In the podcast we talk about how we went from that place to being able to sing in the kitchen today. Carolann’s anger processing steps … Continue reading 005 – Anger and Resentment…

We discuss treating each other like we are dating, by not talking through the bathroom door.Oleh Podcast – Moving to a Ten!

In this episode we share secrets that we didn’t know about each other. Links mentioned in this podcast: Art of Manliness: How to write a Love Letter Art of Charm Jon’s tips for Guys to writing love notes: There is no secret formula Write what is on your heart Be honest Mention a reason why you … Continue reading 003 – Secrets…

While trying to make this episode, we hurt each other and turned it around to grow closer. The communication tool that really works: Drive Through Talking from Gary Smalley Listen (take the order) Say it back (repeat the order) Reverse roles and repeat Work towards a common solutionOleh Podcast – Moving to a Ten!

We share our story of coming back from the edge of divorce. We are 40-somethings married almost 20 years. On a scale of 1 to 10, our marriage was at the bottom. With help we are moving up, number by number. And now we share with you what we’ve learned. Join us, so we can … Continue reading 001 – From the Edge of Divorce…