I’m raising an adult, not a child. These are some of our moments. I pray they help you.
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Imagine a place where you, a childfree human, don't have to explain your decisions or choices. Being a childfree human is powerful, meaningful, fully unapologetic, and all that is worth celebrating. This podcast is a breath of judgment-free air where all the things in this childfree life are shared and discussed. And oh … I am Raphie (she/her), your host. I am a wife, an entrepreneur, an occupational therapist, and a bird mom to name a few. Let's continue getting to know each other over on I ...
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Only children are normal kids who can have wonderful childhoods and fulfilling adult lives. We are here to represent that and spread the word! Hosted by adult only children/ moms of onlies, we bring the real talk about the awesome and challenging parts of this experience. We offer practical tips, support, & encouragement. Featured topics range from socialization to financial planning to balancing parenting/work in quarantine, & so much more! We are ok and your child will be fine, too! Let’s ...
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You're Not Crazy: A Podcast for the Adult Children of Parents with Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Disorders
Torie Wiksell
Psychotherapist and Coach, Torie Wiksell, is no stranger to talking about challenging and dysfunctional family dynamics. In addition to specializing in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders as both a therapist and coach, Torie grew up with a mother who had unmanaged borderline personality disorder (BPD) and quite a few narcissistic traits. Torie has spent a significant portion of her 11+ year career as a therapist working with clien ...
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My Last Minute Game Plan for Surviving the Holidays with a Dysfunctional Family
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If you’re the adult child of a parent with borderline or narcissistic personality disorder, the holidays can feel more stressful than joyful. In this episode, I’m sharing practical, actionable strategies to help you navigate these tricky family dynamics while prioritizing your mental health. From setting boundaries to managing emotional triggers, w…
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Breaking Cycles and Building Connections
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Can personal experiences spark global change? In this episode, I share the story behind my newest venture, Confident Boundaries, and how my passion for helping adults with parents who have borderline and narcissistic personality disorders has evolved throughout this past year. Confident Boundaries goes beyond my therapy and coaching practices, offe…
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When “Perfect” Isn’t Perfect: Unmasking a Narcissistic Mom
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Growing up with a narcissistic mother can feel like navigating a maze of manipulation and emotional chaos. Ever wonder how the image of a "perfect mom" can clash so deeply with reality? In this episode, I share snippets from my own personal journey of growing up with the "perfect" narcissistic mother. We'll dive into how societal perceptions of mot…
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Navigating Holiday Family Dynamics: Setting Boundaries and Choosing Yourself
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In this episode of You’re Not Crazy, I’m diving into the challenges of navigating family dynamics during the holiday season—especially when you’re dealing with parents who have narcissistic or borderline personality traits. I’ll share actionable strategies for conserving your emotional energy and prioritizing your peace and happiness. Together, we’…
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The Key to Long-Term Peace & Happiness is...Stress
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Today I'm going to try to convince you that embracing stress is the secret to your long term peace and happiness. Discover how the cycle of avoidance, driven by the fear of upsetting a parent with borderline or narcissistic personality disorder, might be keeping you stuck in a loop of burnout and resentment. By shifting your mindset and recognizing…
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Deciding Whether to Set Boundaries or Go No-Contact with Your Toxic Parent
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In today's episode, I discuss whether you should set boundaries or go no contact with a parent who has unmanaged borderline or narcissistic personality disorder. We'll explore the emotional exhaustion that often leads to the choice of going no contact and the societal pressures that can make you doubt this decision. Full disclosure- the audio on th…
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Stop Being Vulnerable with Your BPD/NPD Parent
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Emotionally vulnerability with a parent who has unmanaged borderline personality disorder or narcissistic personality disorder is always a bad idea. But, it's hard to not get sucked into those feel good moments- so what should you do? Listen to this episode of "You're Not Crazy" to hear my thoughts on the many complicated layers of being emotionall…
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How to Get Unstuck When All Your Options Suck
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Feeling stuck in a relationship with a parent who has borderline or narcissistic personality disorder can be overwhelming. The fear of triggering them can leave you feeling paralyzed and like you have no options. But here’s the thing: doing nothing is making a choice—and it’s probably not the one that serves you best. In this episode, I share pract…
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Becoming a Parent Myself Has Made Me Less Sympathetic to My Own Mom
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Today I share about my own childhood growing up with a narcissistic parent. I talk about why it's been such a struggle for me to really accept my mother's narcissism and how becoming a parent myself has made me much less sympathetic to my mother's poor parenting journey. Also, thank you to all of our new Patreon members! I'm so excited to see the Y…
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Being Kind to Yourself is Hard When You Grow Up with Emotionally Unpredictable Parents
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In this episode, we talk about self-compassion and why it is so hard to develop for adults who grew up with emotionally unpredictable parents. I dive deep into why an emotionally safe space is essential for developing self-compassion and ways you can practice being kinder to yourself starting today. Support the show Exciting News: The Confident Bou…
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Bonus Episode: The You're Not Crazy Podcast is Growing!
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In this week's special bonus episode, I share about how this little podcast that could is growing- thanks to you! Whether you're seeking extra support, insightful Q&A sessions, or just some good company on bi-monthly Zoom chats, our brand-new Patreon community has got you covered. But, don't worry- our weekly Tuesday podcasts aren't going anywhere!…
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You Asked, I Answered: A Q&A Episode
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In this episode of "You're Not Crazy," I answer the questions you sent in about dealing with parents who have borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Hear my thoughts, advice, personal experiences, and more in the first question and answer episode of the podcast! Support the show Exciting News: The Confident Boundaries Online Community i…
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5 Skills to Learn as an Adult After Growing Up with a Parent Who Has Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder
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What happens when the very people meant to guide and nurture you leave you questioning your own emotions and self-worth? On this episode of You're Not Crazy, we tackle the complex aftermath of being raised by parents with borderline and/or narcissistic personality disorders, unraveling the mystery of how this impacts our adult lives. Listen for adv…
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Yah, Your Parent is Probably Lying to Their Therapist
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Today, I'm talking about the frustrating reality of dealing with parents who continue to display toxic behaviors despite years of therapy. I share a personal story about my own mother who insisted her therapist told her she no longer needed therapy. Then, I discuss why some therapists are not be equipped to work with clients who have personality di…
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Understanding Therapy vs Coaching: Navigating Relationships with Borderline and Narcissistic Parents
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Today I share my journey from being a skeptic of the coaching industry to launching my own coaching business, Confident Boundaries, earlier this year. You'll hear about my initial frustrations with the unregulated nature of coaching, especially during the COVID-19 boom, and how I came to recognize a pressing need for accessible support for adults w…
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This week, I tell you why I absolutely refuse to help you suppress your emotional reactions to your parent's toxic behaviors. Listen to hear me out and why I instead recommend focusing on setting boundaries with your parent who has borderline and/or narcissistic personality disorder. Also, I share why this episode is a little late! As always- thank…
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Radical Acceptance: Understanding and Coping with Parents Who Have Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Disorders
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So sorry this episode was up a little late- thanks for bearing with me! Can you really accept a painful reality without liking it? In this episode of "You're Not Crazy" I share why radical acceptance, a crucial skill for adult children dealing with parents who have borderline and narcissistic personality disorders, can help you do just that. Unders…
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Self-Help Gurus: Growing Up in a Dysfunctional Family Makes You a Target for Their BS
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This week on You're Not Crazy, I chat about why I loathe the Tony Robbins of the world and why you need to be careful about being the target of charismatic people who want to exploit you. Growing up with parents affected by borderline or narcissistic personality disorders can distort our sense of self and intuition, making us prime targets for re-t…
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Common Issues That Get in the Way of Setting Boundaries with Difficult Parents
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Ever feel paralyzed by the thought of setting a boundary, let alone enforcing it? You’re not alone. Many of us didn't grow up witnessing healthy boundary-setting, and it can feel like an insurmountable task to learn it as an adult (but good news- it's not!). In this episode, I discuss practical steps and strategies to help you navigate the path tow…
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Parental Manipulation: Let's Talk About It.
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Let's talk about common forms of parental manipulation and abuse. Today, we pull back the curtain on the dysfunctional tactics employed by parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Has your reality has been twisted through gaslighting? Were family rivalries created through triangulation? Today's episode reveals how guilt-tripp…
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It's Me, Hi, I'm the Problem, It's Me
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Can trauma from growing up with a parent with borderline or narcissistic personality disorder shape the way you see yourself? On this episode of "You're Not Crazy," I'm pulling back the curtain on my own experiences growing up as the child of a parent with unmanaged BPD. For years, I worried that I might have borderline personality disorder (BPD) m…
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Thinking About Going No-Contact? Before You Do, Listen to This.
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Thinking about going no contact with a parent who has borderline or narcissistic personality disorder? Be careful about how you execute that plan and what advice you follow—a recommendation by a popular therapist YouTuber of sending a letter is probably the worst idea I've ever heard. Join me, Torie Wiksell, as I unpack why this seemingly empowerin…
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Navigating Toxic Family Dynamics: Finding the Right Therapist for You
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Finding the right therapist can feel like navigating a minefield, especially when you're dealing with the complexities of a parent with borderline or narcissistic personality disorder. Ever been told to maintain contact with toxic family members because it's "good for your mental health"? I have, and let me tell you, it was eye-opening—and not in a…
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What if understanding your anger could be the key to your emotional freedom? Join me, Torie Wiksell, on "You're Not Crazy" as we explore the intricate and often terrifying relationship that adult children of parents with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) have with anger. Growing up in these environmen…
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I Don’t Believe Parents Who Are “Completely Blindsided” When Their Child Goes No-Contact
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Why do some parents claim they had no idea their adult child would cut them off? Discover the reasons behind this disconnect when adult children going no contact with their parents in this episode of "You're Not Crazy." I'm Torie Wiksell, your host and a seasoned therapist and coach, and today we unpack the complex dynamics that lead to family estr…
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Welcome to You're Not Crazy: A Podcast for the Adult Children of Parents with Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Disorders. Hosted by therapist and coach Torie Wiksell, this podcast is dedicated to those who have grown up trying to navigate the complicated and challenging realities of having a parent with borderline or narcissistic personality…
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Yes, it's farewell, and a hello ! What is ending and what is beginning. Officially retiring my podcast not a momma life podcast and brand - all for childfree humans. This is the final episode. After many many months of soul searching, goal making and self care/cognitive energy inventory - made the decision. Accomplishments to be celebrated Supporti…
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I have been pretty transparent here. Toady is not different. I do 𝙣𝙤𝙩 always have physical or mental capacity to do all that needs to be done for podcast and here on IG. More not days lately. I am sharing my plans. Before I do-want to share why I am announcing it. I feel me, you, anyone do not owe explanations for our actions! Unless we wan…
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Tanya shares so much in this episode. Aging parents, siblings, childhood home memories, friendships and choosing YOU! This is a podcast takeover episode, its Tanya Williams founder of world'd first Childfree magazine and author of "Childfree Happily Ever After" https://childfreehappilyeverafter.com.au/childfreemag2/ (Worlds First Childfree Magazine…
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Showing up for your self, a personal story.
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I was not sure I was going to even record this. But with mental health and being a minority I knew I had to share! Because I know myself and my history, I know this is an episode I can get through. Yes, we all have bad days, bad hours and we cab and will get through this. WE GOT THIS ! BUT if you need help PLEASE seek help! Emergency Medical Servic…
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Which episode is number 1 ? Did you guess it right?
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Thank you to each and every one of YOU! Thank you for the journey to 144 episodes plus bonus episodes. I want to have a virtual party, can you head on over this https://www.instagram.com/p/CZ4mVy5ASEg/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link (Instagram post) and vote ! PLEASE. AND NOW https://not-a-momma-life-a-pod.captivate.fm/episode/is-my-childfree-story-li…
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A life-hack for mental health, productivity, self-care and more.
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Are you up for a challenge ? I have been doing this for certain apps on the weekends or when I know I need a break. THIS…. Takes that to entire different level ! Post on Medium mentioned, https://hiraphie.medium.com/turned-off-all-my-notifications-badges-6058ace1c18a (click here. ) All of my posts over on Medium are here. https://www.instagram.com/…
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This one simple calendar hack / process has changed my WORLD in 2-3 weeks. There are so many things out there in the world - all about productivity, mind set, intention and more. It is really easier than you would think. I am sharing why I am doing this, how I am doing this and results from this easy tactic/plan. NEW Podcast Detailshttps://newpod.h…
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Takeover episode alert , all about a Childless perspective.
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Takeover episode about childless perspective and was mentioned in episode number # 106 and 107 https://not-a-momma-life-a-pod.captivate.fm (listen here) Civilla Morgan created The Childless not by Choice podcast was founded in July 2015. I searched for help at the most vulnerable time in my life, but could not find that help, so I created it. I kne…
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Where have all the cowboys gone? A story about a google story!
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Needles in haystacks. Frustrating searches. Where have all the childfree content gone, or where is it? NOT a best choice of songs since it's clearly about having children - silly me. Searching for childfree content is like dodging dead virus filled inter webs. I seriously came across a page not that old, 2019 and all links we dead or very virus lik…
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Be a part of something new, exciting x2 & FREE
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I thought about this decision for quite some time, wondering if anyone will want another audio feed, and another audio feed from me. The NEW audionews will be short bits, the MOST important part is that you, we will all be able to comment, interact and engage with each other. (NOT for Android so sorry) When will audionews be published? Well, whenev…
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More about community, don't make it negative but do make it hard!
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This a follow up from episode 106 on Wednesday. Do we know what to look for in a community? Where is the best community? I thinks very important to realize that seeking community is so very different for each every childfree human out there There a lot of childfree spaces, it’s not a competition, we all find our piece of the pie. https://www.instag…
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Using the word childless and what goes into searching for community!
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WHEW this is a jammed pack episode and inspired by Brenna. A chat we had over in the DMs of IG. Please you are always welcome to send me a message to chat over in Instagram. Its kinda where I reside. This episode I share my thoughts on the word "childless" and WHY I honor it. Also so tips on finding that just right or nearly right community. There …
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