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Monster Stories Podcast: Living with Evil, is a series of narratives which convey the intimate experience of being (often captive) in a relationship with a person incapable of humane behavior; a person who derives pleasure from another’s pain. He may be called a beast, a sociopath, a crazed raging monster, a sadistic deceiver, a psychopath. Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/monsterstoriespodcast/support
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1 18. Daddy’s Home: The Battlefield of Birth--The Narcissistic Parent and his Apprenticeship 25:40
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25:40Please listen to this episode. It is the most difficult set of stories I’ve offered you because of the raw truths and violent moments I’ve heretofore never enunciated. How does the child make it through all the violence and trauma she is subjected to while in the womb? How does she develop in the very early years? Although the entire 22-year marriage to the psychopath, Dr. Mario was replete unspeakable horrors, there were years in each location (New Mexico, Vermont, Peaks Island, Oakland, CA) which were filled particularly grotesque acts of sadism but Dr Mario. You now can hear how “Monster Stories” was coined by Dr. Mario as he spoke and wrote about himself for years. I share parts of myriad recordings and notes on the podcast where he openly identifies himself as a Monster and a, Not a Monster (you already have heard how confused and subhuman these creatures are). What a world it would be if boundaries were enforced between narcissists and non-narcissists/socio/psychopaths, rather than determined by ethnic and religious difference; religion and ethnicity so inconsequential in comparison to the danger of narcissism. Here, I speak of the way narcissism impacted me and my little daughter from the time I found I was pregnant. What is it like to go through a gestational period knowing deafening decibels of violence daily? What might it be like to be felled as an embryo daily on gravel, concrete, hard ground? The pregnancy becomes a battlefield where the mother is in a constant fight or flight mode . She is living on adrenaline (cortisol flowing through her body); trauma is the constancy; melancholia is the atmosphere; the baby grows for nine months on the front lines and is born in the trenches (this trauma applies to a father who has a borderline wife as well). Why doesn’t the mother (OR father) of a narcissistic/psychopath/sociopath/borderline mate simply leave? Does one every simply leave a narcissistic mate? NO. If you’ve been with a narcissist, how many times have you had to respond this ridiculously ignorant question? Think, my listeners: Glen Close in Fatal Attraction , Jack Nicholson in The Shining , The Talented Mr. Ripley (Patricia Highsmith) -- How easy was it for the prey to rid themselves of these superior and practiced narcissists? Not easy is the answer, in case you still were wondering. Reclamation of a life creatively lived after being with a narcissist or in extremis , a psychopath, is a heroic feat (and may positively impact the child who has been indoctrinated into narcissism by the sick parent). Please see www. monsterstoriespodcast.com for further notes and links to books, essays, films that I mention on this podcast. This podcast is a production of Honestly Speaking LLC. Suzann Kole, Ph.D. has worked in academe and the mental health field for over 40 years. She holds a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology and Narrative Studies (an area of linguistics). --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/monsterstoriespodcast/support…
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1 EPISODE 17. "I Am So In Love With My Imagination of You." (Captivity Within The Imagination of Another) 29:06
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29:06In this episode we explore how our partner or spouse may be in love with the imagination of us rather than who we really are (and/or, vice versa). We discuss the limitations caused by this phenomenon; how we may have been in this predicament for years and not been able to put it into words; how we may have felt the constraints associated with this condition of merely being the figment of another’s imagination . We explore how this captivity within the imagination of another , is psychology similar to the captor and captive in a relationship that involves a psychopath . This narcissistic trajectory may seem frightening, yet, it is crucial for our (relational) wellbeing to examine this phenomenon in our own lives and intimate relationships in order to identify if we are indeed holding another captive in our imagination, or, if we ourselves, are the captive of another. This discernment helps us understand disgruntlement or limitations we may feel in our intimate relationship, yet, have never spoken of because we lacked the knowledge and language to identify and enunciate the phenomenon. It may have merely presented as frustration, name-calling, feeling controlled, unseen, misunderstood....or, as captor, feeling a loss of control in regard to our spouse; our stated lover. Being held captive within another’s imagination is common. In fact, we’ve all probably done it at one time (some more than others), as well as had it happen to us; that is, having an imagined version of ourselves superimposed onto the depth and breadth of who, in actuality, we are . When this phenomenon exists between two people in an intimate relationship, emotional and physical intimacy wanes or becomes nearly non-existent. Similarly, a desire to learn about the other, fades. A quarrelsome tenor defines the relationship. The person being held captive feels hindered in efforts to explore new areas of living. His spouse demands (however unwittingly or subtly), that he comply with the boundaries of her imagined version of him. If the captor in the scenario, has been relating to others in this manner for a long time, she may be unable to ever discern between the imagined person and the actual one , her partner. The captive feels trapped and bucks against an invisibility he has no words for. The relationship simply feels stultified, and he feels hopeless or, resigned . This phenomenon can go on for years within a marriage. The captive may have succumbed to the imagined version of himself and now, actually plays the role that his spouse has superimposed onto him (and expects of him), while harboring a grudge, or great melancholia in regard to the relationship. The captor has little interest in the captive expressing concern regarding his frustration. An estrangement forms between the lovers. All efforts to explore new territory (e.g.: a new profession, a renewed creative expression, interest in new foods, people, and travel), may seen as threats by the captor who has a stake in maintaining a status quo, her imagined other behaving in the expected manner. Hence, the captive is thwarted in his efforts to fulfill certain desires and longings in life. The captive feels profoundly misunderstood or unrecognized, and, in fact, is. Please visit www.monsterstoriespodcast.com for further notes, links, and contact information. Thank you. This podcast is a production of Honestly Speaking LLC. Suzann Kole, Ph.D. has worked in academe and the mental health field for over 40 years. She holds a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology and Narrative Studies (an area of linguistics). --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/monsterstoriespodcast/support…
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1 16. " This is What Happens When You Disobey." or, Keeping the Captive in Her Place 24:05
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24:05In this episode we explore some of the faces of captivity: What are some of the psychological dynamics between captor and captive? What do these experiences look like for the “average” (?!) person being held in captivity by a psychopath? The personal experiences of captivity as seen outside of the extreme situations reported in the news and made into films, may look a lot different yet, bespeak the same psychological dynamics. We look at how the entire concept of captivity has been so commodified and sexualized, that it has occluded, hence de-emphasized the importance of scrutinizing this perverse and dangerous psychological phenomenon which has been occurring for time immemorial. I make references to John Fowles book, The Collector, which most of us had to read in 10th grade when it probably made little sense. With the decline of interest in literature, people are less able to reference psychological dynamics in books, which really are the only references that accurately develop characters and traits which describe psychological malaise. Manuals such as the DSM with its lists of symptoms and brief multiple-choice characteristics, make little sense when attempting to look at Character-Disordered people/creatures such as socio/psychopaths, or antisocial and borderline characters. I’ve referenced some films this week which may help explore the various dimensions of captivity. The Shining (Jack Nicolson), The Experiment (Adrien Brody/Forest Whitaker), Fallen (Denzel Washington), all disturbing, somewhat sensationalized, and abstract, nevertheless, accurately portray psychological dimensions of the psychology of captivity. I offer a number of abbreviated vignettes which were part of my own captivity, but I chose them because these traumatic and monstrous experiences are often universal to someone who has been with a psychopath either in a long- or shorter-term relationship. How does being held captive affect the nervous system and the brain’s amygdala function? How can the psychopath maintain captivity when his or her prey is at a distance? How does the violent raging of a psychopath affect a child who is part of the union? Please listen to this episode to learn more. And visit the website for links, additional notes, and contact information, www.monsterstoriespodcast.com. Thank you for listening. This podcast is a production of Honestly Speaking LLC. Suzann Kole, Ph.D. has worked in academe and the mental health field for over 40 years. She holds a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology and Narrative Studies (an area of linguistics). --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/monsterstoriespodcast/support…
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1 15. Psychopaths, Captivity and Aphrodisiacs or, “Let Me See You Beg, Honey" 28:55
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28:55Psychopaths, Captivity and Aphrodisiacs or, “Let Me See You Beg, Honey" Welcome back to Monster Stories Podcast, Living with Evil after a brief absence during which your host took a historic tour of northern New Mexico, visiting the offices where Dr. Mario was hired into our group practice, as well as the homes where Dr. Mario first began to groom the host for a life of captivity; the house where first he began kidnapping his then, daughter (from a prior marriage). This, a trip both unnerving and reifying. How necessary it is sometime to see a place of horror with renewed vigor. (We hear yet another simulated apology by Dr. Mario at the beginning of the podcast) The interlude this week is some of the “keening” done by your host while she is managing to survive the horrendous trauma occurring while being held by her captor. In this episode we continue our discussion of captivity… how it occurs, the dynamic between the psychopathic captor and his captive. We speak of the erroneous portrayal of the psychopath as sexual predator and look at what his actual aphrodisiac of choice is. Furthermore, we speak of how the “psychopath as superior lover” is also a misnomer. If not superior, what kind of lover is he? Can a person devoid of sensate capacities be a “lover”? Is the psychopath able to perform sexually, if so, under what conditions? What really does arouse the psychopath? What is Captivity and how does a psychopath accomplish it? Why are others so unable to see a captive and notice how s/he’s suffering? Why are people so unwilling to believe in the pathological paradigm of psychopathic captor and captive? How is this pathological dynamic maintained in secrecy and when does it begin to be exposed? Gaslighting is a tool for maintaining captivity. The more the captive doubts herself the more removed she becomes from a reality check as it were. S/he is moving about her life and career burdened with various physical and psychological traumas inflicted on her by the psychopath, while also being told that she is not doing enough ; that she is not strong enough ; that she is not enduring enough . The captive may be a person who has often felt to be not enough throughout her life, hence the psychopath is able to capitalize on this predisposition as he insinuates himself into her psychological state. Similarly, friends, colleagues, neighbors, family surrounding the captor and captive are indoctrinated into a brainwashing that the psychopath is always manufacturing in order to protect his image, his veneer, his mask of sanity. He is pointing at his prey and speaking of how he or she is ill; exposing her idiosyncrasies; creating plausible tales about her as the captive become increasingly isolated within shame, a confused identity and melancholia. Pease visit www.monsterstories.com for further notes, and links to books and films mentioned in this episode, as well as contact information. This podcast is a production of Honestly Speaking LLC. Suzann Kole, Ph.D. has worked in academe and the mental health field for over 40 years. She holds a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology and Narrative Studies (an area of linguistics). --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/monsterstoriespodcast/support…
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1 14. Psychopathic Captivity Part 1: Confessions of a Former Captive 18:50
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18:50This season opens with a few stumbling words introducing the psychology of captivity. In subsequent episodes we will continue to explore this topic which is rarely spoken of. Why do we not hear the voices of the escaped captives more frequently? …Because the majority of captives are never released by their psychopathic captors. Many captives die from bodily harm inflicted upon them by their captors. Many take their own lives to liberate themselves from a situation which seems to afford no exit. Others are left in a severely traumatized state and have no desire to remember the horrific period of captivity. Shame is another muting feature--there is a tremendous amount of shame associated with this topic , captivity , especially for professionals, yet, professional people are the main targets of the psychopath. The psychopath looks for people who will serve him. This utility-value in others is his only interest in assessing them for a relationship of any kind. Professionals serve the psychopathic captor with their money and status. Being with a professional, or so the psychopath reasons, helps him maintain the appearance of normalcy. Please return for further notes dispelling the erroneous notions of the Stockholm Syndrome , the enabler , and the psychopathic sexual predator (ha!). The hostage never becomes inured to captivity or pain, contrary to pop-culture psychology; s/he never learns to care deeply, compassionately, or sexually for the captor. Rather, she learns how to play the game that s/he feels will keep her alive. She placates the captor by pretending to speak with him as though they were in a normal relationship; as though she were not being held captive. She is aware of his delusional world and plays the part she feels may be to her best advantage in terms of avoiding more serious injury; more punishments; continued captivity; death. The Psychopath has no capacity for sexual feelings. His interest is in power. He is only aroused by pain and suffering in others, hence he has a penchant for necrophilia . (more notes shortly...and tune into subsequent episodes) The medical profession commodifies psychopaths and their captives. The titillation-value appears to be the greatest money-maker, hence, harmful psychological/psychiatric assumptions are made from cursory knowledge. For example, “scientific observations” from afar, utilize fragments of information shoddily gathered from random survivors of captivity to create terms such as the Stockholm syndrome (coined in the 1970s re: Patty Hearst). This term, although not accepted by the rare thoughtful psychologist/psychiatrist, is a widely held pop-psychological colloquialism suggesting that a hostage learns to feel deeply for his or her captor. The meaning also extends to sexual fantasies suggesting that the captive actually enjoys the bondage she is held in by a psychopath. How sickening it is when lawyers and others have assaulted me with such facile musings. Some male listeners of this podcast have also asked to meet me, only to raise the question of my sexual appetite for pain, “ Come on now, didn’t you enjoy it just a little ???”. (see more notes www.monsterstoriespodcast.com) This podcast is a production of Honestly Speaking LLC. Suzann Kole, Ph.D. has worked in academe and the mental health field for over 40 years. She holds a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology and Narrative Studies (an area of linguistics). --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/monsterstoriespodcast/support…
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1 13. Does it Matter that Your Physician is a Psychopath? 21:15
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21:15What matters in our interactions with others? What aspects of character do we trust are integral to our relationships? What if your physician, your neighbor or your lawyer was a narcissist (a psychopath), hence, one of the 25%+ of the global population who has no capacity for genuine human emotion? In other words, what if your physician was born without the capacity to know suffering or understand pain? Would this matter to you? These are the difficult questions we are increasingly being forced to consider each day when so many people among us are merely impersonating sentient human beings in order to blend in. Psychopaths are the great imposters. They spend much of their lives creating friendships with sensitive people in order to study them and/or take advantage of them. Because they have a narcissistic disorder, psychopaths blameless admit to these impersonations of human facial gestures, sounds, words, tonalities which are indicative of emotional expression. Who wants to speak of narcissism and psychopathy when it’s such a depressing topic ? Can we just forget it exists and pretend that all those we meet are worthy of our trust? Can we elect to watch films about Ted Bundy, leave the theater, and naively feel liberated from such people when a quarter of the population is narcissistic? What about the moral decay caused by narcissists? Do we care if we no longer can tell who to trust and who is an imposter? When we hire a caregiver for our elderly parent, or, hear that a sibling, child or neighbor is stopping by to visit that parent, we trust that our parent is in good hands. Yet, yesterday on the news, a plea went out worldwide, asking us to be suspicious of caregivers, as increasingly, they are narcissists, often guilty of heinous crimes. Moral decay takes on an entirely new meaning when we consider how many people are born incapable of knowing pain, giving care, feeling love. Integral our social fabric is the assumption (desire for) honesty, respect and trustworthiness which narcissists are incapable of. They have no concept of personal boundaries. What level of Madmax (film) dystopia must we see in order to awaken to the erosion of our moral fabric due to the proliferation of narcissists? Living in a perpetual state of suspicion is exhausting, sorrowful, impossible for most of us who inherently are generous and loving. We sentient human beings see distress and register pain as a call to aid another. We enjoy reciprocal care and thoughtfulness. Most of us unwittingly depend on mutual trust when we interact with another. “Dr Mario”, the main but not sole antagonist of the podcast, abused his daughter and lost all parental rights to her. There are many “Dr. Mario”s. He abused his parents, siblings, wives, children, associates. He was in jail on several occasions due to these crimes. He has evaded the law and kept his crime hidden on that mask of affability until cornered in several situations. He paid punitive damages to the little girl and her mother in order to stay out of jail. He continues to practice as a psychiatrist with no apparent flaw to his record. He has no capacity to feel the pain of others so causes pain with impunity. Narcissists strive for positions of power. What if Dr. Mario were your doctor, would it matter? This podcast is a production of Honestly Speaking LLC. Suzann Kole, Ph.D. has worked in academe and the mental health field for over 40 years. She holds a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology and Narrative Studies (an area of linguistics). --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/monsterstoriespodcast/support…
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1 11. So You’ve Become the Psychopath’s Chosen One, How Does It Feel? 30:26
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30:26In this episode (11), and the following one (12), we return to the earlier Meet the Psychopath, narrative thread. I speak of the entire process of meeting the monster, being courtedby him, and slowly being luredinto his/her dense malevolent webbing. This progression, usually insidious, is characteristic of all narcissists and borderline people. As, it is estimated that 25% of the population worldwide presents with the disorder of malignant narcissist, you have undoubted interacted with these people and are, if not a prime target, are an unwitting puppetin their machinations. These sick people may vary in terms of the degree of chaos they cause, but all of them are character/personality-disordered individuals. Hence, they allshare the same character deficiencies. All narcissistslack empathy and to some extent or another, enjoy causing others pain for their own pleasure. Furthermore, character-disordered people are the only classification of psychological malaise known to worsen with age. This episode was originally published a month ago, when I was just beginning to podcast: just beginning to enunciate my own story in order to reach you, who may have never spoken of these psychological dynamics you’ve found yourself in, previously. I ask that you please, bear with my pauses as I relay the story of the psychopath’s (Dr. Mario’s) courtingprocess with me. He is the main antagonist in these episodes. I speak of how, from the beginning, he divided me from others (first, my colleagues, then, my small group of friends). Dr. Mario courted me with both words and deeds, manipulating me into seeing only his charming seductive masks. (please go to www.monsterstoriespodcast.com for further notes and links) This podcast is a production of Honestly Speaking LLC. Suzann Kole, Ph.D. has worked in academe and the mental health field for over 40 years. She holds a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology and Narrative Studies (an area of linguistics). --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/monsterstoriespodcast/support…
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1 12. How Can You Discern the Difference Between a Psychopath and An Authentically Kind Person? 27:41
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27:41(This episode opens with a word of Advice on Monsters, from Dr. Mario.) How do you know you are interacting with a sociopath, a borderline personality, a psychopath, a monster, when at first, they seem so affable, so interested in who you are, so aware of your needs and how to fill them? How do we know that the person next to us who affords momentary relief when our grocery bag rips, or, offers a compliment when we’re feeling glum, is a sociopath rather than a thoughtful stranger? How does one discern between a meddling sociopath, and, an authentically kindindividual who has approached you with genuine interest and compassion? In this episode and the prior (11), we return to the thread of an earlier narrative, Meet The Psychopath, (in my case, Dr. Mario), to explore the questions posed in this episode. We can only detect someone is a sociopath after several interactions with him/her, and even then, we may not realize we are interacting with a monster. The well-practiced psychopath seamlessly insinuates himself into our lives; into even the most learned person’s life as an undetected toxin. Once this occurs, we are hisprey, henceforth unwittingly serving him….unless, of course, we awake from our state of mesmerization, realizing how we’ve been duped by an imposter. As a third party in a pathological triangle, (which occurs when the phenomenon of gaslightingis taking place), a person may never discover how they’ve served the monster’s need to sever his prime targetfrom the rest of the world; to punish her/him. They may never realize their sinister alliance with the monster; how they did his bidding for him (see previous episodes for more on gaslighting and, pathological triangles). In responding to the query, how do we know the veracity of the person we’re interacting with, I share a thumbnail version of my own unwitting induction...(see www.monsterstoriespodcast.com, for complete episode notes and links) This podcast is a production of Honestly Speaking LLC. Suzann Kole, Ph.D. has worked in academe and the mental health field for over 40 years. She holds a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology and Narrative Studies (an area of linguistics). --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/monsterstoriespodcast/support…
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1 10. The Psychopath’s Love Letters, Why They Matter and What They Reveal 26:47
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26:47In this episode we look at letters the psychopath /narcissist/ monster writes to his prey (the prime target and others), as well as letters his manipulated victims write for him.. Though I offer narrative segments of some love letters I've received from a psychopath (Dr. Mario), I also include one brief narrative in the monster's own words at the very end of this episode ((before outro) Why are the letters from psychopath’s important? First, it is crucial for the survivor of a psychopath to reclaim her own, autonomous character, however malevolent her partner or colleague has been. These letters serve as historical data; as reification of our past. Second, in all of his love letters, the monster makes blatant confessions of his crimes. He describes his torture of others, often explicitly. Third, millions of us have received these letters meant to rope us back in if we’ve been brutalized a bit too severely by him and pose a risk to his hermetically sealed captivity of silence and place. He takes pride in being able to seduce by his disingenuous discourse. Fourth, they are also meant to show off his talents to others; that is, to illustrate the monster’s capacity for convincing words of remorse (albeit insincere) in the event he needs to garner support from them Fifth, these letters are written to prove how seamlessly the monster has mastered imitation of all the humane characteristics we value most. He derives a self-satisfaction in his personal imitation game. Also, in this episode, we see an example of the way a gaslighted victim, does the monster’s bidding for him (Elizabeth, his Maine lawyer, in this case). She, one of his custom-designed victims, acts as his puppet . S/he is programmed to behave in the same sinister way he does. The monster has many of these brain-washed and carefully chosen and trained victims. They are the third points in his/her pathological triangles, (discussed in proior episodes). Please see examples of a psychopath's love letters and further notes, on www.monsterstoriespodcast.com This podcast is a production of Honestly Speaking LLC. Suzann Kole, Ph.D. has worked in academe and the mental health field for over 40 years. She holds a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology and Narrative Studies (an area of linguistics). --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/monsterstoriespodcast/support…
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1 9. Clueless Attorneys: How Psychopaths Destroy By Proxy. Beware ! 21:38
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21:38In this episode I ask you to ponder isolation and character defamation that results from a gaslighting campaign by a psychopath, sociopath, monster. I ask you to reflect on attorneys you may have retained, who were victims of gaslighting-by-proxy (yes, an actual term), hence, only served to perpetuate the erroneous image of you as troubled, mentally imbalanced ( or worse), that the monster had contrived. I share my own story of a Maine attorney who was an example of this insulting line of thinking that perpetuated the monster's erroneous depiction of me (i.e.: Dr. Mario’ s contrivances, in my case ). I ask that you listen to Sam Vaknin’s youtube links on my website, to hear firsthand, how a psychopath uses psychological tactics often called “ a rape of the mind ”, in his/her attempt to destroy the prey (see links on my website). He confesses that for the psychopath “abusing others is akin to breathing” . We speak of how the highly damaging weapon of triangulation or gaslighting, leaves the victim completely isolated ; bereft of a past, of roots, of loving bonds, of a support system to help rebuild his/her life. Hence, she is isolated within her captivity both within the narcissist/psychopath relationship, and isolated afterwards, unable to speak of her experience in an ill-informed society which most likely has eschewed her due to gaslighting-by-proxy . We reflect on how this process of gaslighting and gaslighting-by-proxy has been a prominent aspect of human behavior for centuries. Witch Hunts, The Scarlet Letter, The Manchurian Candidate, and so many other books and films, reflect this psychological phenomenon which is rarely spoken of; this profound character defamation (identity theft) which occurs for all victims of the psychopath; the lifelong isolation. Re-read all about it in The Scarlet Letter , by Nathaniel Hawthorne (remember this book from 6thgrade?) Most literature on this subject offers little help due to the oversimplification of advice ( just leave …rubbish.). Sam Vaknin is extremely accurate in his depictions of psychopathic machinations, and, JB Snow offers some literature which accurately portrays the “prey’s” experience. (more notes on www.monsterstoriespodcast.com). This podcast has been a production of Honestly Speaking LLC. Suzann Kole, Ph.D. has worked in academe and the mental health field for over 40 years. She holds a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology and Narrative Studies (an area of linguistics). --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/monsterstoriespodcast/support…
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1 8. Psychopathic Punishments: Torture and Captivity in the Casco Bay and Beyond 30:54
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30:54Psychopathic Punishments: Torture and Captivity in the Casco Bay and Beyond “ I have been violent and abusive to you; I know it. I've traumatized and hurt you deeply with my rages for years… I realize more each day how my violent rages abused and traumatized you… For years and years, I had no idea they were having such a crippling effect on you …but you are mentally ill. You are addicted to anxiety. I can no longer take your illness.” ( Dr. Mario email ) Note in the above quote from an email, how Dr. Mario, a physician (a psychiatrist), seeing me unable to walk after years of withstanding his captivity and violent rages, has not realized what a crippling effect he was having on me; on my body. This, yet another gratuitous, self-justifying note the we, who have been captive to the monster, receive between punishments. In this episode we continue our discussion of psychopaths, punishments, disobedience and the perils of restraining orders. This is central to the character-disordered person; central to the monster’s behavior; central to the experience of the monster’s prime target along with triangulation(gaslighting) . Disobedience by the monster’s prey (ignoring implicit orders), is always met with a punishment, a repercussion. The monster demands absolute loyalty from his prime target. I offer the repercussion I faced after returning from my recording session with David; how Dr. Mario perceived this abandonment as disloyalty, hence the harsh ensuing chastisement. We speak of the stupid questions posed to we, who have been the prey of the monster (e.g.: Why didn’t you just leave ?) We speak of the prison of gaslighting ; that is, the prison of being severed from normal human compassion when we are despairing from wounds inflicted upon us by the monster. The monster’s (psychopath’s) capacity to cause people to feel fear rather than compassion for his prime target; this legerdemain. The interludes this week are (my) keening , an important grieving song found in most non-Westernized cultures (see link on my website, www.monsterstoriespodcast.com ) We discuss what occurs when the rare, well-informed police get involved with situations of psychopathic abuse. How restraining orders only pose a challenge to the monster (the borderline personality-disordered individual). Intrinsic to his pathology is the compulsion to transgress; to break through boundaries in order to assert power. We talk about how typical it is for monsters to have their spouses committed ; to have them on strong neuroleptic medications ; wrongly prescribed medications for the torment these victims have been through with the monster. Who, of course is the real culprit ; the actual sick one? read more on www.monsterstoriespodcast.com This podcast has been a production of Honestly Speaking LLC. Suzann Kole, Ph.D. has worked in academe and the mental health field for over 40 years. She holds a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology and Narrative Studies, --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/monsterstoriespodcast/support…
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1 7. July 4 2019, Psychopathy: The Declaration Of Independence As Curative For the Prey 20:40
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20:40Journal entry: Today, July 4, 2018, I awake this morning and turn to the declaration of Independence for solace. This eloquent statement from 1776, is relevant to our lives on many levels. I ask you to consider both its historical and psychological implications. For we who have known the brutality of the monster, it reminds us of our duty to sever ourselves from the oppressive governance of the monster, the psychopath, and to institute a new self-governance that provides for safety, liberty and happiness. Triangulation is perhaps the most challenging captivity to break free of. It is a far-reaching poison. It has isolated us from those we’ve loved. It has caused us, at times, to walk among hostile neighbors. It has led us to confront fictitious versions of ourselves that the psychopath has implanted in other’s minds. We, knowing the irreversibility of this psychological tampering by the monster, learn to fix our compass on destinations anew where we experience the kindness of genuine human interaction and affection. We learn to maintain our dignity within highly adversarial environments. We realize that freeing ourselves from the constraints of the monster is a calling that serves not just us, but also a wider humanity. “When in the Course of human Events, it becomes necessary for one People to dissolve the Political Bands which have connected them with another, and to assume among the Powers of the Earth, the separate and equal Station to which the Laws of Nature and of Nature’s God entitle them, a decent Respect to the Opinions of Mankind requires that they should declare the causes which impel them to the Separation. We hold these Truths to be self-evident, that all Men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Happiness—That to secure these Rights, Governments are instituted among Men, deriving their just Powers from the Consent of the Governed, that whenever any form of Government becomes destructive of these Ends, it is the Right of the People to alter or to abolish it, and to institute new Government, laying its Foundation on such Principles, and organizing its Powers in such form, as to them shall seem most likely to effect their Safety and Happiness.. (stunning words of encouragement from the Declaration of Independence ).” I refer to Dr Mario in this episode, who is the main (but not sole) antagonist of these narratives. I refer to the implicit captivities of silence and place, as well as those of triangulation and bodily harm mandated by the monster, (the psychopath, the narcissist, the sociopath), which I've addressed in prior episodes. Again, you may not have used the term "captivity" to describe the psychological lair the monster has "charmed" you into visiting, but each of us daily, meet affable-appearing monsters who seek to invite us into a psychological confinements for their own manipulative purposes. read more on www.monsterstoriespodcast.com This podcast has been a production of Honestly Speaking LLC. Suzann Kole, Ph.D. has worked in academe and the mental health field for over 40 years. She holds a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology and... --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/monsterstoriespodcast/support…
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1 6. Psychopathic Punishments and The Aesthetics of Survival 19:40
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19:40Punishments are central to the core behaviour of psychopaths, whether it be triangulation or more brutal captivities and bodily harm. Since the prey of the monster the psychopath always lives within a captivity of silence, whether wittingly or or unwittingly, finding an expressive outlet in which to encode our sorrows and relational grief is essential for survival. In this episode I share a recording of poetry and cello, where despair is an obvious theme, albeit shrouded within images of natural beauty. During my captivity with Dr. Mario (the main antagonist in these episodes), I compiled many manuscripts of poetry, couching my pain within the beauty I glimpsed in my surroundings. I wrote in this fashion in order to chronicle my life (troubled as it was), and simultaneously, obey the mandates of silence issued by my captor. Why the enigmatic style, you ask? It's because the monster always demands that his grotesque behaviours remain hermetically sealed within the relationship with his prime-target prey. Disobedience to this mandate incurs punishments. We discuss the urgency of creative expression (albeit cryptic) within our captivity of silence. We do this in order to maintain a voice; in order to record life’s events, however distressing; in order to reify our time with the monster so as to not feel it has amounted to "wasted time". We also speak of the inadequacy of language to describe and discuss the experience of being drawn into a friendship or alliance with a narcissist, sociopath, only to find at some point in the future, that he’s been an imposter: the simulacrum of authentic human encounter. Whether you are an unwitting accomplice of the psychopath, or his prime target, the entire drama of meeting a monster, becoming infatuated with him (discussed in earlier episodes), being punished by him in a variety of ways, and experiencing inexorable betrayal by him, defies adequate conversant terminology. I speak of my foray to David’s studio to record poetry with cello; how the immersion within art, afforded hours of lessened physical pain. I reinforced the way disobedience to one’s captor incurs punishments. Hence, Dr. Mario, had many genial phone calls with David while I was there, he was insidiously reinforcing to him that my so-called psychiatric disorder presented as an illusion of physical pain--the anguish of experiencing triangulation. We speak of how one in every four people we meet will, to some extent, lean toward a narcissistic personality disorder ; how our encounter with these people is inescapable; how we will know the drama, chaos, and betrayal of this ersatz human affiliation on many occasions throughout our living. We speak of how our expressivity, within ensnarement, becomes a seminal composition that will assist others in a similar predicament, as, there is a paucity of literature afforded the voice of the psychopath’s prey. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/monsterstoriespodcast/support…
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1 5. Psychopathic Punishments: Mind-control in Portland Maine, No One Knew the Truth 35:17
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35:17In this episode, we’ve temporarily moved forward in time to speak of psychopathic punishments and how the monster uses them to maintain obedience of his (or her) prey. This topic, though extremely difficult to speak of, is central to how the monster controls his partner once he’s ensnared her through his masks of “charm”, “psychopathic infatuation” and an inundation of attention (see episodes 1-3). I invite listeners to interface their own “punishment stories” as I offer (stammer through) just one of myriad personal narrative recollections describing some of the psychological details involved in psychopathic punishments. If you are not the prime target of a monster, I invite you to reflect on experiences where you may have been his unwitting protégé; his auxiliary victim. Make no mistake about your immunity to a monster’s flattery and seduction: whether you are a neighbor, colleague, patient, associate or mate, you have likely been in collusion with him. As you listen to the Monster Stories Podcasts, you may have a tendency to believe that the psychological dynamics of which I speak occur to only a rarified group; to someone else less aware; never to you. However, my hope is that through these personal narratives, and the exploration of psychological nuance intrinsic to psychopathic behavior, you will come to realize how common these dynamics are; how plentiful psychopathic chaos is everywhere; how we are all susceptible to being ensnared and undoubtedly have been. The vocabulary I use may not be part of your lexicon, but my descriptions are universal. In this narrative, we see how gaslighting is used by the monster not only to isolatehis prey from others, but to confuse her (him) from confidence in logical thinking. We see how when the monster fears disobedience or exposure, he shortens the psychological tether upon which his prey is always affixed. We see how masterfully the monster uses hypnosis to create mirages. The images he implants in the minds of others as well as his prey, become more “real” than the "actuality" of a phenomenon a person is witnessing (see link to Derren Brown). This legerdemain is typical of the well-practiced monster who has used the sinister tool of gaslighting for most of his life. Deception and psychological manipulation are central aspects of gaslighting and triangulation. Hypnotic suggestion or mind-control, is employed by the monster to confuse both his prey and those who encounter his prey. This menacing skill, permits the monster to cause perceptual disorientation and doubt within the thinking patterns of his prime target, usually his mate. It also allows the monster to deprive his prey of the necessary reification she needs from others to break free of him, for, it prevents others from seeing her harrowing predicament as well as her psychological and physical duress and helping her. Others who know the monster's prey, have been bamboozled by the him into seeing her not as she truly is, but as the contrived image he has manufactured and presented them with. If the psychopath is a professional, as in my case (a psychiatrist), he uses his social status as a signifier of plausibility when he implants these statements of perceptual contradiction in the minds of others. see more notes on the www.monsterstoriespodcast.com This podcast has been a production of Honestly Speaking LLC. Suzann Kole, Ph.D. has worked in academe and the mental health field for over 40 years. She holds a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology and... --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/monsterstoriespodcast/support…
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Monster Stories Podcast - Living with Evil
1 4. Episode Three, The Monster Begins His Ominous Courting Dance 25:11
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25:11In this episode, I offer further narrative to exemplify how we are drawn into the corrosive effects of triangulation or” gaslighting” that the monster (i.e.: the psychopath, the sociopath, the character disordered person) introduces into relationships with those around him. We begin to notice the subtle dependencies he initiates in order to take control of his “prey”. We see how he insinuates himself into other’s lives through a subtle and sinister courting process . From the beginning, we were unwittingly drawn into the monster’s request for obedience. *Please note, these are complex, nonverbal psychological phenomena intrinsic to the monster’s relationships. They are terms we will speak of more extensively in further episodes as narratives are offered which help illustrate these terms and behaviors, which many of you have experienced and been damaged by. The monster feeds on the capacity to create schisms between others--even if they are not his prime targe t. He alienates people from each other in order to control them. The monster has his own hierarchical power structure much like a lunatic queen bee in a beehive. One queen maintains control of myriad other bees which are all there to service him/her in one way or another. The drone bees are the prime targets in the monster’s lunatic hive. this entire network or hive is all created insidiously. Similarly, when it is dismantled, it is rarely spoken of. We are left in a state of muted chaos for a lengthy period of time. When we are with the monster, we may realize how his disregard for boundaries allows him to steal rampantly. This thievery occurs on many levels throughout our relationship with the monster. He robs from stores, from friends, from colleagues, in order to create chaos or obtain a thrill. We may notice how his ethos seems nonexistent, yet, he is always inundating us with more chaos and attention which overarches our capacity to focus on his transgressions. read more on www.monsterstoriespodcast.com This podcast has been a production of Honestly Speaking LLC. Suzann Kole, Ph.D. has worked in academe and the mental health field for over 40 years. She holds a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology and Narrative Studies, --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/monsterstoriespodcast/support…
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