The bright side-看到光明面

Robot Monk Xian'er

The bright side

Seeing others with disdain does not meanthat they are no good at all. Instead, it is because we have made a habit outof being picky and whiny, seeing only the faults in others, or even blamingthem falsely. Such habit is terrible, because it will attract everythingnegative, drown people in darkness and create a vicious cycle. This has to bechanged. We should develop good habits of looking on the bright side, makingcompliments and being grateful. Let’s make a plan: everyday, find at least onegood thing that happened to you, discover a good quality in others, and say“thank you” to someone sincerely.

When we are in a good mood, we can evenfind someone we don’t like lovable. Meanwhile, when we feel down, even thingsthat we usually like can annoy us. In its essence, afflictions come from ourminds, the external only provoke it. The best way to resolve hatred in ourminds is to cultivate a grateful and compassionate heart, by learning toobserve the bright side of things and people around us in our daily lives.

看到光明面

对周围人看不惯，并不是周围的人真的都一无可取，而是因为自己养成了这种挑剔和抱怨的习惯，眼里只看到别人的缺点，甚至不是缺点也会被你看成缺点。这个习惯非常可怕，会吸引所有负面的东西，让人陷于黑暗，形成恶性循环。必须要去扭转。要去培养看到光明面、赞美和感谢的好习惯。给自己订一个计划：每天至少找出身边的一件好事，观察到别人的一个优点，对一个人真诚地说：“谢谢！”

当我们心情好的时候，即使看到不喜欢的人，也会觉得可爱；反之，当我们心情差的时候，平时喜欢的事物，见到也会增添烦恼。归根结底，烦恼的产生是在内心，外在只是引发的因缘。减轻内心的嗔念，最佳的办法莫过于培养感恩心、慈悲心，在生活中学会去观察身边人与事光明的一面。