In order to be fulfilled in our lives and relationships, we must be willing to invest in those things that matter most to us. Many people invest years of their lives in school and training in order to practice their chosen career, knowing that in the end, it will be worth it. Your marriage is the most important asset you have. It’s all about strengthening the legacy of your family. It would be an honor to go on this journey with you. As a Counselor/Coach, Husband/Wife team we share vulnerabl ...
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S2 Episode 26 STEPFAMILY Interview with In The Blend, Australia
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Wonderful interview with Laura Jenkins, founder of In The Blend. She is encouraging stepfamilies who live in Australia...and beyond! We never know where the conversation will go! We always know we'll have fun! Check out more podcasts from Laura at https://omny.fm/shows/in-the-blend Here are her show notes: Gil and Brenda, a husband and wife duo, sh…
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S2 Episode 25 STEPDADS Interview with Mike from Blended Family Breakthrough
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This is an interview Gil had with Mike Anderson from Blended Family Breakthrough. We hope you feel a little more equipped and encouraged after listening to this great conversation. Here are the notes from Mike's podcast: Hey Stepdads — ever wonder if you're "winning or losing" in your role at home? Most stepdads I meet genuinely want to build trust…
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S2 Episode 24 Stepchildren and Marriage How to Build Trust an Interview with Ron Deal at Family Life
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Blended family life doesn't often start with every relationship in harmony. But it's not unusual to develop it along the way. Ron Deal speaks with Gil and Brenda Stuart about how disappointment and confusion eventually morphed into redemption and joy. Celebrating their 20th wedding anniversary with a vow renewal was an amazing experience. Another w…
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S2 Episode 23 STEPMOM Interview with Mike & Kim Coaching
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Brenda, and two other Stepmoms were interviewed by Mike and Kim Anderson from Mike and Kim Coaching. This interview brings 3 perspectives of being a stepmom, but yet there is one common thread. Being a woman in a stepfamily can be a hard road. Whether you join with kids or not, having realistic expectations are part of having a successful formula t…
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S2 Episode 22 Unsung Heroes: Interview with Ron Deal of Family Life Blended
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Tips, Tools, and Tingles for Your Relationship! Encouragement for Dads in a Stepfamily! Gil was interviewed by Ron Deal, from Family Life Blended. This was a great conversation about how important the Dad is in the stepfamily…and how it can be challenging. Gil doesn’t pull any punches and is pretty raw and honest with Ron. This 8-part video series,…
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S2 Episode 21 MARRIAGE Financial Intimacy
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There are 2 things that we share intimately with our spouse: Sex and Money. With financial intimacy, it’s not about the money. Gil and Brenda dive into the deep end on this issue. It’s about experiences, and what it means to you. It’s important that you talk about this with your spouse so you both have a realistic view of how money is “felt” in you…
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S2 Episode 20 MARRIAGE Self Talk; What is Your Inner Voice Saying?
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Can you keep up with your inner voice? How often is it positive? How often is it negative? Is it toward yourself or whoever you are talking with? Gil and Brenda have a lively conversation… (maybe their inner voices are the ones that are speaking!) about this age-old challenge. How often are we so caught up in listening to our inner voice, we totall…
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S2 Episode 20 MARRIAGE Self Talk; What is Your Inner Voice Saying?
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Can you keep up with your inner voice? How often is it positive? How often is it negative? Is it toward yourself or whoever you are talking with? Gil and Brenda have a lively conversation… (maybe their inner voices are the ones that are speaking!) about this age-old challenge. How often are we so caught up in listening to our inner voice, we totall…
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S2 Episode 19 STEPDADS Unsung Heroes
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Brenda interviews Gil about why this video series was created and how! Stepmoms will gain a HUGE insight about their guys. We think there is a lot that Dads who ARE NOT in a stepfamily can learn too! Unsung Heroes (UH) is intended to encourage and inspire men who are dads in stepfamilies. Disrespected by step kids? On the receiving end of frustrati…
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S2 Episode 18 MARRIAGE The #1 Marriage Killer
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We know, you’ve probably read/listened to this topic before. But Gil and Brenda get pretty raw and keep it real when discussing this one. This marriage killer is pretty common and with these action steps provided, you can steer clear of this. When in conflict, do not use these words: “Me/ You/ I. We use this verbiage without even realizing how much…
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S2 Episode 17 MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIP Touch Points
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Drift and Apathy can wreak havoc in a relationship. How you watch TV may directly impact this! Gil and Brenda share 12 ways (you can come up with more) how couples can have “touchpoints” in their relationship. It’s in the things that we do every day. We miss the opportunity to connect…which launches us right toward the killers in marriage. Believe …
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S2 Episode 16 STEPFAMILY (all kids) Rocks in the Bucket
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Gil and Brenda share a concept they have been sharing in their presentations for years. “Rocks in the Bucket” helps give your kids a voice. When done correctly, you empower your children to tell you the truth of how they are feeling. The system is built on you honoring them as they try to honor you with something hard to say. It’s a win/win. We all…
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S2 Episode 15 STEPDADS Stepdad to Stepdad Pt 2
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This is part 2 of an interview with Gil Stuart. There isn’t a lot of information for stepdads out there. The content of this interview has been on Gil’s heart for over 18 years. As Brenda interviews Gil, listen in as 6 top questions are asked…3 in part 1 and the remaining 3 in part 2. 1. What is a relational safety zone? 2. It’s ok to love your mom…
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S2 Episode 14 STEPDADS Stepdad to Stepdad Part 1
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There isn’t a lot of information for stepdads out there. The content of this interview has been on Gil’s heart for over 18 years. As Brenda interviews Gil, listen in as 6 top questions are asked…3 are in this Part 1. 1. How to contend with the infamous “you’re not my dad!” 2. What is reverse betrayal? 3. Stepdads who demand too much too soon. Altho…
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S2 Episode 13 MARRIAGE The Husk of the Heart: What Are You Looking For?
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A heart with a hard husk views the world with a negative sentiment. Gil and Brenda talk about breaking down the husk and how it affects our relationships: marriage, friends, coworkers, etc. Positive or Negative: What lens do we look at our spouse through? If it’s been negative, how do we change it? How does that soften our own heart when we do that…
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S2 Episode 12 MARRIAGE Hide and Seek Series #4 Vulnerability is a strength!
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This is the fourth podcast in a series of 4. Topics in the series: Identity, Connection, Trust and Vulnerability. Each build on each other yet they stand alone too! May your relationship be challenged, and love and growth happen as you are encouraged! “Being vulnerable in a relationship means allowing your partner to know you fully: your thoughts, …
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S2 Episode 11 MARRIAGE Hide and Seek Series #3 Got Trust? You are valued and Loved
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This is the third podcast in a series of 4. Topics in the series: Identity, Connection, Trust and Vulnerability. Each build on each other yet they stand alone too! May your relationship be challenged, and love and growth happen as you are encouraged! Because of your family of origin, past relationships, or just life, your level of trust can be defl…
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S2 Episode 10 MARRIAGE Hide and Seek Series #2 Connection: How Do I Improve it?
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This is the second podcast in a series of 4. Topics in the series: Identity, Connection, Trust and Vulnerability. Each build on each other yet they stand alone too! May your relationship be challenged, and love and growth happen as you are encouraged! Connection vs Disconnection. This happens all the time in our relationships. Sometimes we don’t ev…
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S2 Episode 9 MARRIAGE Hide and Seek #1 Identity: Do I belong? Am I loved?
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This is the first podcast in a series of 4. Topics in the series: Identity, Connection, Trust and Vulnerability. Each build on each other yet they stand alone too! May your relationship be challenged, and love and growth happen as you are encouraged! Two questions everyone asks in a marriage/relationship: Do I belong? Am I loved? Wow, deep question…
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S2 Episode 8 STEPFAMILY Gil and Brenda are interviewed by Ron Deal from Family Life Blended
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Are you looking for support for the unique dynamics and challenges that stepfamily life brings? Have you wondered where you can go to get help? Then this episode is for you! Ron Deal talks with Gil and Brenda on how to find a church that will support you as a stepcouple, how to know if you need counseling and where to go, and what to do if not ever…
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S2 Episode 7 STEPFAMILY Interview Craig & Gina Morgan, Blended Together
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S2 Episode 7 STEPFAMILY Interview Craig & Gina Morgan, Blended Together Another powerful conversation about how to strengthen and protect your marriage and stepfamily. Gil and Brenda interview Craig & Gina Morgan with Blended Together. Married 24 years, they are out of the Dallas, TX area, and share an excerpt from their latest resource, Building B…
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S2 Episode 6 MARRIAGE Are You Married and Lonely?
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Most people think that when they get married, they won’t be lonely again. Feeling lonely and isolated in a marriage is becoming more common than you may realize. Gil and Brenda have talked with several people that are feeling this way. Do you know someone who is lonely in their marriage? Is it you? Loneliness affects not only our mental health but …
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S2 Episode 5 MARRIAGE First Responders & Law Enforcement
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What can those couples who are in Law Enforcement and First Responders do to protect their marriage and family? What can we (those of us who are not in those fields) do to support them? Gil and Brenda interview a couple, who have been living this journey for over 20 years, 10 of those years on a SWAT team. Gabe and Stacey are very candid about the …
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S2 Episode 4 MARRIAGE The Hesitation to Invest: Raise the ROI in your relationship!
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Why do some couples hesitate to invest in their marriage? Without sugar coating anything, Gil and Brenda explore several possibilities…and their remedies. Sometimes the busyness of life intrudes on the investments that need to be made in our marriage. And sometimes it’s just easier to hide behind the busyness instead of talking about what’s really …
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S2 Episode 3 MARRIAGE Conflict: Damage Control
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Even in the best relationships, conflict is going to happen. Is conflict good or bad? Conflict is good, as long as you do it right! Yet, how do you control the damage that can come with conflict? Gil and Brenda go over a few points from the Gottman Repair Checklist. Here are some real “how” to’s” to reduce the damage that can happen when conflict c…
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S2 Episode 2 MARRIAGE Got Pain? Flip it to Peace
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So many times, there is an underlying pain that we carry that affects our relationships. It can be from family of origin, past relationships…or even the present. Gil and Brenda talk about a new way to look at pain. Not so much as an enemy but as a teacher. By using the acronym PAIN, you’ll gain a new “Perspective”, hopefully not be “Apathetic,” lea…
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S2 Episode 1 STEPFAMILY/PARENTING/Marriage Interview with Ron Deal and Dr. Gary Chapman
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While speaking on the Love Like You Mean It Cruise, Gil and Brenda were able to catch an interview with Family Life Blended Director, Ron Deal and author of the Five Love Languages, Dr, Gary Chapman. They just wrote a new book, Building Love Together in Blended Families that is a game changer for stepfamilies. ALL marriages/relationships will benef…
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S1 Episode 50 MARRIAGE How is the Customer Service in Your Relationship?
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A recent trip to a cell phone store prompted a discussion about Customer Service (CS). Our experience wasn’t that great, but it got us thinking about the CS in our relationships….is it good or bad? What is the responsibility of the store and the customer? In our relationships, do we as customers pay on time? Do we ask for what we want? Do we let th…
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S1 Episode 49 STEPFAMILY Joel Hawbaker Interview : Stepdad, and School Counselor
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Ready to gather some gold nuggets to help your parenting in a stepfamily? Gil and Brenda interview Joel Hawbaker, a High School teacher, someone who lived in a stepfamily and is now in one. Joel offers some fresh perspective that can bring lively conversations to your marriage. After listening to this podcast, here are a few questions to discuss: 1…
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S1 Episode 48 MARRIAGE REMARRIAGE Feeling Protected? (not just physically)
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Do you feel protected in your relationship? Gil and Brenda define what that looks like to them and how it impacts their relationship. Although, what they share may affect your relationship too. Protection isn’t just about your physical well being. It involves the physical, emotional and spiritual dimension of your relationship. Action step: Have th…
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S1 Episode 47 MARRIAGE Stop the Drift
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3 Ways to Stop Relational Drift You may be living parallel lives, on the same page and everything is going well. Yet we all have seasons where we drift from that. Careers, health, focus on our kids and a myriad of other things can pull us away from each other without us even realizing it. Gil and Brenda share 3 common ways drift can happen in a rel…
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S1 Episode 46 MARRIAGE Connect-Build-Grow Interview on WAY-FM 104.5
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Gil and Brenda are interviewed by Paul VanSickle with WAY-FM 104.5 (Vancouver, WA market). The upcoming Northwest Marriage Conference is coming next month. How do your past relationships affect the present? What happens in each stage of marriage? Honeymoon, ankle biters, teenagers, and empty nesting all have a special flair about them. Gather some …
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S1 EPISODE 45 STEPFAMILY Holidazed – Avoid the Spin!
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The Holiday season can be…crazy, right? Although, living in a stepfamily can be that way all the time! Gil and Brenda bring some perspective to the “Holidaze” with some old reminders (Holiday survival 101) and some new thoughts. Realistic expectations vs lower your expectations…which one? Don’t ask the kids too much about their other bio parent. Th…
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S1 Episode 44 MARRIAGE Friendship Builds Connection
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Is there a friendship in your marriage? Friendship can get lost in the marriage. Will it always be fun? No. It is ok for friends to disagree/fight. It’s healthy in a marriage…as long as it is done correctly. It’s important that both “hearts” are heard. Gil and Brenda share 3 ways to build your friendship in your marriage. This vital part of your re…
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S1 Episode 43 STEPFAMILY 5 Tips to Prepare for Thanksgiving
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The holidays are just about to begin. Do you know how to prepare for them? Is this new territory or is it time to up your game? And we’re not talking about the turkey…or the dinner! Being in a stepfamily is hard enough, but you add in the stresses of the holidays and hard is at a new level! Gil and Brenda will share 5 tips to help stay sane during …
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S1 Episode 42 STEPFAMILY Success Interview with Jed Jurchenko Author, StepDad, Therapist
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Ready for some refreshing encouragement for your remarriage and stepfamily? How is Velcro like your marriage? Gil and Brenda interview Jed, author of 12 books (with Jenny too!), a therapist, psychology professor, and a stepdad. So many nuggets of wisdom are shared here! 131 Conversations for Stepfamily Success is so helpful and his newest book, Hap…
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S1 Episode 41 STEPFAMILY Devotions Ron Deal Interview
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Want to be more in sync with each other? Ron Deal with Family Life Blended, shares vulnerably and offers a wealth of ideas and encouragement in his interview with Gil and Brenda. His latest book, Daily Encouragement for the Smart Stepfamily is a home run! You can shift your direction (thoughts) by just 1 degree and it can keep you on course and be …
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S1 Episode 40 ALL Happy 4th of July!
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Gil and Brenda are having some fun sharing stories of their fourth of July celebrations through the years. Thrown in are some interesting facts about our country’s birthday too. The Stuarts would love to hear some of your “war” stories of fireworks gone wrong, happy celebrations and that awful potatoe salad your aunt brought! Happy Happy to you…and…
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S1 Episode 39 MARRIAGE 5 Myths About Marriage A Gottman Repost
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The Gottman Institute has been around for over 40 years. Their research on marriage and relationships comes from their “Love Labs” and is pretty solid and world-renowned. Gil and Brenda share from a recent article from the Washington Post, June 2018, 5 Myths about Marriage that comes from the Gottman Institute. There were some common myths that we …
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S1 Episode 38 ALL ACE’s Part 2 Graduation Time and more! Interview with Curtis Miller
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It’s High School and College graduation season!. Kids hear all the time, the dreaded question “so what are your plans? College, work, what are you going to do with your life?” The conversation continues with Cutis Miller, Executive Director/Founder of Connect Battle Ground. How does a high ACE’s (Adverse Childhood Experiences) score affect how a ch…
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S1 Episode 37 ALL ACE’s Part 1 (Adverse Childhood Experiences) Interview with Curtis Miller
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Episode 37 ALL ACE’s Part 1 (Adverse Childhood Experiences) Interview with Curtis Miller Have you (or someone you know) experienced a Big “T” trauma or a Little “t” trauma? Whether you are a child, teen or an adult, there can be many factors that can lead you to a life of low self-worth, low self-esteem, and a constant self-protection. This impacts…
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A blended family that is formed through the pain of widowhood is very difficult, to say the least. Join Gil and Brenda as they interview Jess and Ryan Ronne. Both lost their previous spouses to brain cancer. Grief, loss, compassion, “sainting the person,” is discussed in this pretty raw interview. How do you engage the other family members who are …
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S1 Episode 35 MARRIAGE Sex Leads to Dancing
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In a marriage, the sexual experience is the highest form of communication. In their playful, real style, Gil and Brenda talk about the subject of the sexual relationship in your marriage. And, as usual, they don’t just talk about it from the 30,000 ft level, but they go deeper. Where does the heart come into play? In what ways can you be more inten…
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S1 Episode 34 DIVORCE Leavee or Leavor?
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You’ve never heard an interview like this one. Gil and Brenda hadn’t. You probably hear a lot about the person who was left in the marriage by their spouse. People rally around them to give them support through their “train wreck.” What about the people who left the marriage? Is there forgiveness for them? No matter what side of the fence you are o…
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Most people who get remarried and have adult stepchildren feel that they won’t have any problems. That is a myth, big time. Gil and Brenda discuss the nuances of having adult stepchildren. Yes, there are situations where everything is fine...no doubt. But adult stepchildren are experiencing the same feelings that our little ones who are in the home…
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S1 Episode 32 STEPMOMs/STEPDADs 3 Mother’s Day Pointers from a Husband.
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Gil and Brenda are here to encourage Stepmoms on Mother’s Day by helping their husbands know what to do! This special day is loaded with emotions and expectations. It can be a party and celebration for some, and yet for others, there is radio silence from their stepchildren. Gil shares 3 pointers to help husbands love their wives through this holid…
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S1 Episode 31 MARRIAGE: Why Date Your Spouse
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Leisure Time = Marital Happiness. This shouldn’t be rocket science…but sometimes it feels like it! Gil and Brenda have some fun as they share the benefits of married couples dating, and 12 date rules (an addition to Brenda’s already established dating rules!) You are free to add your own! How do you smell? That could be a very important point to ta…
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S1 Episode 30 STEPMOMS Interview with Laura Petherbridge, The Smart Stepmom
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Gil and Brenda interview Laura Petherbridge who is an author, international speaker on many topics, and a stepmom cheerleader. In this episode, the conversation covers stepmoms and stepdads who did not bring any biological children into the marriage (although ALL stepmoms/dads will benefit). There are some different moving parts with this type of s…
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S1 Episode 29 MARRIAGE Conflict: Thinking Distortions Part 2 False Beliefs and Conflict
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Gil and Brenda present Part 2 of this podcast on communication and conflict. Pass it along to your friends, family, and co-workers. They share great insights into the distorted thinking that hinders our communication with others. And they are BIG on communicating well so that connection happens. False beliefs about ourselves can get in our way of l…
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S1 Episode 28 MARRIAGE Conflict: Thinking Distortions Part 1 Assumptions and Self Talk
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ANYONE can relate to this podcast today! The most important conversation is the one you have with yourself. Assumptions and negative self-talk (among other conversations with yourself) will directly impact your conversations with others. Gil and Brenda will share 4 of the 8 common distortions in our thinking. Which ones do you resonate with? Get ri…
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