16: Kelly Gardner - Is Selfishness the Secret to Sizzling Relationships?
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In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes relationship coach Kelly Gardener to discuss the complexities of self-care, relationships, and the fine line between healthy selfishness and narcissism. Kelly shares insights on how self-trust and confidence can lead to deeper connections and healthier relationships.
Together, they explore the impact of societal pressures on women, the importance of setting and holding boundaries, and how to cultivate sensuality and self-worth independent of external validation. This episode is a thought-provoking dive into modern relationships, offering practical advice and inspiring stories to help listeners prioritize their own needs and foster meaningful connections.
What We Explored This Episode
03:57 Healthy Selfishness in Relationships
07:46 Socialization of Boys and Girls
09:37 The Paradox of Selfishness in Love
13:56 The Importance of Boundaries in Relationships
16:37 The Connection Between Self-Trust and Confidence
20:01 Cultivating Sensuality and Self-Worth
22:00 Societal Standards and Body Changes
26:26 Defining Confidence
Memorable Quotes
"The ugliest parts of me come out only with the people I trust the most. It's a paradox that the deepest, ugliest parts of my being surface because I trust you enough to see them. This reality, though unfortunate, is an opportunity for growth—for me and for us together."
"Boundaries are not walls; they are permeable membranes that allow for connection. A good boundary doesn't require the other person's participation; it's about what you will do if your needs aren't met."
"Healthy selfishness in a relationship means looking at how the issues that arise are reflections of your own experiences and triggers. It's about taking responsibility and getting curious about your own patterns."
Connect with Kelly
Kelly’s Website: https://www.kellygardner.com/about-me
Kelly’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/iamkellygardner
Schedule A Call With Kelly - https://communitygardnerllc.hbportal.co/schedule/6506a876455fe4002512df98
Connect With Amie
Website: https://amiebarsky.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amie-barsky/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amiebarskycoaching/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmieBarsky?sub_confirmation=1
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