83: The Social Dilemma of Online Dating Apps. Serial Romance 2020. Eve Eurydice w Matthew Sherman

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Has Online Dating Changed the Way We Date & Mate & Like Each Other? How has Covid-19 affected Romance in 2020? Eve Eurydice speaks to Matthew James about online dating apps & the resulting changes in human mating behaviors. The idea of love alone releases happy neurochemicals into the body. We get a chemical release just from getting likes & attention. When the dopamine hits of desire are mediated by phonescreens & apps, our expectations of pleasure change source. The Chemical Release is affected by a third party: the algorithm. Eve Eurydice speaks with Matthew about the different ways in which dating apps are changing our dating behaviors. The goal of the app is to keep bringing us back to the app. The goal of the app can’t be to no longer be needed. The app wants to change our behavior so that we’ll go through apps to find ppl to be romantic with. We are the product: we wanting & seeking love in the world What’s the Ratio of investment of time to relationship? Apps are better for temporary hook-ups or short-term partnerships. Apps train our brain to have low expectations—a quickie instead of true love. The proliferation of potential matches itself is prohibitive. We do not have time to know each person enough to make an honest choice. We get inundated emotionally on the human level. From then we focus on superficial contact. Intimacy is the False Promise of Social Media. Social Media is part of our Public Life. Our dating life is private. It’s where we hope to be accepted in our vulnerable truth. Love is unconditional trust. From an evolutionary standpoint, the apps show us what is not love. For merch, books, totes, art go to https://Eurydice.net For more podcast content, go to https://SpeakwithEve.com/ or go to https://Eurydice.substack.com or go to https://YouTube.com/SpeakSexwithEveEurydice --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/speaksex/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/speaksex/support