Eurydice - How to make marriage work

Subversive w/Alex Kaschuta

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Our conversation explores the challenges and complexities of modern relationships and marriages, the loss of unified narratives, the saturation of relationship advice, the importance of personal responsibility, voicing needs, and avoiding resentment in relationships. The conversation also delves into the impact of legal systems on relationships and the role of pronatalism in encouraging marriage and having children. We also address the gender dynamics and expectations in relationships, the need for strong individuals who can advocate for themselves while respecting their partner's desires, the dynamics of sex, relationships, and marriage from a gendered perspective, the challenges faced by men in forming real connections and attracting the kind of women they desire, the concept of hypergamy and how it is often misunderstood and much more.

Eurydice is a pseudonymous writer and Twitter/X poster @euridicelives. She also writes on Substack @euridicelives

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and the Challenges of Modern Relationships

02:31 The Saturated Market of Relationship Advice

09:20 Resentment and the Importance of Voicing Needs

18:44 Personal Responsibility in Marriage

22:41 The Impact of Legal Systems on Relationships

28:26 Encouraging Marriage and Having Children

32:42 Gender Dynamics and Expectations in Relationships

46:02 The Paradox of Optimizing for Sex

50:08 The Impact of Technology on Modern Relationships

57:44 The Cultural Issue of Male Worthlessness

01:02:46 The Value of Women's Sexual Desires and Investments

01:09:26 The Overlooked Qualities Women Desire

01:13:18 The Complexity of Hypergamy