I’m Single. I Always Have Been And Always Will Be.

The Counter Narrative

Dear listeners welcome to a thought-provoking episode of the Counternarrative Podcast, where we delve into the complexities of singlehood and challenge societal norms that often shape our perceptions of fulfillment. Today, we are honoured to host Bella De Paulo, a distinguished author and social scientist whose work has been instrumental in reshaping narratives around the lives of unpartnered individuals.

In this captivating episode, we explore the empowering narratives that arise from the uncharted territories of single life, particularly for women. Dr Bella's latest book, "Single at Heart," serves as a guiding light, dismantling stereotypes and celebrating the richness that comes from living authentically, unburdened by conventional expectations.

Dr Bella prompts us to question ingrained assumptions about companionship, asking a profound query that becomes a focal point in our exploration: "How could marriage possibly provide insurance against dying alone?" This question unravels a profound truth— that unless both spouses experience their last breaths simultaneously, one will inevitably face the solitary journey into the afterlife.

OUTLINE

00:00 - Introduction
01:15 - Dr. DePaulo, you've coined the term "Single At Heart." Could you share with our listeners what it means to be "Single At Heart"?
02:12 - We often witness double standards when it comes to singles - single women being labeled as promiscuous, while single men are often seen as players. In your book 'Single at Heart,' you expressed a deep love for single life and a commitment to remain single. Could you explain what single life offers that a partnership might not?
05:46 - You referenced Dr. Amy Blackstone's book 'Childfree by Choice,' highlighting that those without children engage in "social reproduction" by helping others become contributing members of society. Does this suggest that single individuals, particularly women, are more likely to contribute to their communities than husbands and fathers?
10:35 - In 'Singled Out,' you debunked numerous myths about single life, including the belief that single people are miserable or lonely. As a society, how can we challenge and change these negative perceptions?
15:45 - Society often equates completeness with being part of a marital unit. Dr. DePaulo, what, in your view, makes a human being complete, and how can we encourage this broader understanding of completeness?
19:26 - Co-host Discussion

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