People-pleasing doesn't work, here's what does.

The Simplists

Are you a people-pleaser?

I used to really battle with this and still do a little but I am 90% better than I was.

I want to write a whole book about people-pleasing and may still do that in a year or so but before then I am going to chat about it in this episode as it is so important.

I outline the different people-pleasing signs and some of you might identify with just one, one of my clients came to me with all of them and we worked hard on turning it around!

If you battle with people-pleasing then doing the work on it will free up your time, allow you to truly step into your own identity and you will have the courage to to just be yourself.

Some of the things I discuss:

• How the trait of people-pleasing starts in our formative years.
• Why we guess what others are thinking.
• What mind-reading and fortune-telling are and why people-pleasers often use both.
• Why assertiveness is the only way to clear and authentic communication.

I loved this episode because I am so passionate about it. I have learnt a lot over the years about overcoming people-pleasing and I now carry the words of Derek Sivers around with me all day, every day...

"It's either a HELL YEAH or a NO. Join me in choosing to do something because it's a HELL YEAH and let's say a firm NO to the things that don't serve us.

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