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Eli Beer & United Hatzalah: Saving Lives in 90 seconds or Less 30:20

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Eli Beer is a pioneer, social entrepreneur, President and Founder of United Hatzalah of Israel. In thirty years, the organization has grown to more than 6,500 volunteers who unite together to provide immediate, life-saving care to anyone in need - regardless of race or religion. This community EMS force network treats over 730,000 incidents per year, in Israel, as they wait for ambulances and medical attention. Eli’s vision is to bring this life-saving model across the world. In 2015, Beer expanded internationally with the establishment of branches in South America and other countries, including “United Rescue” in Jersey City, USA, where the response time was reduced to just two minutes and thirty-five seconds. Episode Chapters (0:00) intro (1:04) Hatzalah’s reputation for speed (4:48) Hatzalah’s volunteer EMTs and ambucycles (5:50) Entrepreneurism at Hatzalah (8:09) Chutzpah (14:15) Hatzalah’s recruitment (18:31) Volunteers from all walks of life (22:51) Having COVID changed Eli’s perspective (26:00) operating around the world amid antisemitism (28:06) goodbye For video episodes, watch on www.youtube.com/@therudermanfamilyfoundation Stay in touch: X: @JayRuderman | @RudermanFdn LinkedIn: Jay Ruderman | Ruderman Family Foundation Instagram: All About Change Podcast | Ruderman Family Foundation To learn more about the podcast, visit https://allaboutchangepodcast.com/ Looking for more insights into the world of activism? Be sure to check out Jay’s brand new book, Find Your Fight , in which Jay teaches the next generation of activists and advocates how to step up and bring about lasting change. You can find Find Your Fight wherever you buy your books, and you can learn more about it at www.jayruderman.com .…

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How do I stop living in fear of failure? Why can't I stop overthinking? When will I feel good enough? Why am I so hard on myself? Why do I self-sabotage? Will ruminating + catastrophizing ever end? There's a BETTER Way to Perfectionism, that's empowering highly driven, Type-A, ambitious perfectionists to OWN their perfectionistic tendencies instead of being owned by it. Perfectionism Rewired host Courtney Love Gavin (CLG) illuminates this in every episode. Listen for fierce insights for perfectionists on exiting victim mentality, what self-sabotage *really is*, how to stop people pleasing without compromising kindness, overthinking, catastrophizing, ruminating and black and white thinking, so you can quit fighting against your perfectionistic tendencies and start enjoying the life you've worked so hard to create. Perfectionism Rewired podcast provides answers to questions like: - Self worth vs self esteem - Why am I overthinking - How to increase self confidence - What causes perfectionism anxiety - Why am i so hard on myself - Am I A Perfectionist - WTF is Interoception? Does It Build Resilience? - how to rewire your brain Being a perfectionist is very powerful. But only if you know how to leverage it. For more on optimizing your perfectionism go to https://courtneylovegavin.com

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How To Feel Your Feelings (So They Stop Controlling You) 31:54

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What if feeling your feelings didn’t mean falling apart — but actually gave you more control, not less? If white knuckling or pushing through is the best way you know how to feel your feelings. You’re not alone.Discover the hidden mistake keeping perfectionists stuck feeling on edge, why you can never outthink your feelings and the right way to feel your feelings. Want to bring rewiring into your reality? Where being confident, certain and playful is just how you roll? Perfectionist Solutions 1-1 coaching is your next step. Mentioned In Episode 254: Perfectionism Optimized 1 to 1 coaching PerfectionismRewired.com Other helpful podcast episodes in this series on How Your Brain Actually Works: Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 248 Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 249 Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 250 Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 251 Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 252 Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 253 Timestamps: 00:00-Your thoughts create your feelings LIE #1 01:53-Can't Feel Your Feelings Without This 04:14-Knowing how your brain actually works 05:24-"What is Wrong With Me?" Explained 06:37-Feelings Are Psychological LIE #2 07:16-Feelings are Emotions LIE #3 08:56-Where Feelings Actually Come From 10:08-How Depersonalizing Feelings = Freedom 12:46-Turning Mom Meltdown Moments Around (Manon's Story) 14:35-How To Control Your Feelings 16:01-Rational Thinking + Decisions LIE #4 17:32-Striving For Excellence Without Pushing Through 18:29-What Your Person Account Has To Do With Feelings 19:41-How To Identify Your Feelings Fast 21:12-How To Feel Your Feelings Visual Tool 22:33-Why Meditation + Deep Breaths Don’t Always Work 23:58-Thoughts Drive Your Feelings LIES #5 25:57-Perspectacles How Feelings Shape Your Perceptions 28:37-Turning Your Mood into Useful Fuel 30:07-Where Sense Data Fits Into The Equation How To Feel Your Feelings Q&A Q: Why does “changing my thoughts” never changes my feelings—especially as a perfectionist? A: This episode breaks down the myth that thoughts drive feelings (hint: it’s the other way around!). Discover why “thought work” is a torture device for perfectionidtic people and how the “CTFAR Model” does not actually work for any human with a brain Q: What’s really going on when I’m overwhelmed by emotions even if everything looks fine on the outside? A: You’ll learn the neuroscientific difference between feelings and emotions, plus why this distinction puts an to the cycle of overthinking feelings and asking “what is wrong with me” Q: What's the biggest misconception high-achievers have about feelings? A: Most of us have a totally backward understanding of where feelings come from (and it’s not just psychological!). Courtney reveals the real, science-backed answer. Q: How can I feel my feelings without getting “lost” in them or falling apart? A: Tune in for a client success story and discover a practical tool—the “mood meter”—to help you regain control and function, even on tough days. Q: Does thinking rationally mean I can escape feelings? A: Logic and rationality can’t bypass feelings. Find out why every decision (yes, even the “rational” ones!) are shaped by your mood — and how to use this knowledge to your advantage. Q: What’s one quick, practical tweak I can use to feel better fast? A: Courtney shares micro-strategies (think 30 seconds to 3 minutes) you can use right away to change your mood—and your experience. Highly Credible Resources Cited in this Episode Bar, M. (2009). The proactive brain: memory for predictions. *Philosophical Transactions of the Royal Society B Biological Sciences*, *364*(1521), 1235–1243. https://doi.org/10.1098/rstb.2008.0310 Barrett, L. F. (2017). How emotions are made: The secret life of the brain. Houghton Mifflin Harcourt. Barrett, L. F. (2006). Valence is a basic building block of emotional life. Journal of Research in Personality , 40 (1), 35–55. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jrp.2005.08.006 Barrett, L. F. (2016). The theory of constructed emotion: an active inference account of interoception and categorization. Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience , nsw154. https://doi.org/10.1093/scan/nsw154 Barrett, L. F., & Bar, M. (2009). See it with feeling: affective predictions during object perception. Philosophical Transactions of the Royal Society B: Biological Sciences , 364 (1521), 1325–1334. https://doi.org/10.1098/rstb.2008.0312 Barrett, L. F., Gross, J., Christensen, T. C., & Benvenuto, M. (2001). Knowing what you're feeling and knowing what to do about it: Mapping the relation between emotion differentiation and emotion regulation. Cognition and Emotion, 15 (6), 713–724. https://doi.org/10.1080/02699930143000239 Barrett, L. F., & Russell, J. A. (1999). The Structure of Current Affect. Current Directions in Psychological Science , 8 (1), 10–14. https://doi.org/10.1111/1467-8721.00003 Braem, S., Coenen, E., Klaas Bombeke, Bochove, van, & Wim Notebaert. (2015). Open your eyes for prediction errors. *Cognitive Affective & Behavioral Neuroscience*, *15*(2), 374–380. https://doi.org/10.3758/s13415-014-0333-4 Bobba-Alves, N., Juster, R.-P., & Picard, M. (2022). The energetic cost of allostasis and allostatic load. Psychoneuroendocrinology , 146 , 105951. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.psyneuen.2022.105951 Cesario, J., Johnson, D. J., & Eisthen, H. L. (2020). Your Brain Is Not an Onion With a Tiny Reptile Inside. Current Directions in Psychological Science , 29 (3), 255–260. https://doi.org/10.1177/0963721420917687 ‌Clark, A. (2013). Whatever next? Predictive brains, situated agents, and the future of cognitive science. *Behavioral and Brain Sciences*, *36*(3), 181–204. https://doi.org/10.1017/s0140525x12000477 Gendron, M., Lindquist, K. A., Barsalou, L., & Barrett, L. F. (2012). Emotion words shape emotion percepts. Emotion, 12 (2), 314–325. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0026007 Hoemann, K., Gendron, M., & Barrett, L. F. (2022). Assessing the Power of Words to Facilitate Emotion Category Learning. Affective Science , 3 (1), 69–80. https://doi.org/10.1007/s42761-021-00084-4 Kleckner, I. R., Zhang, J., Touroutoglou, A., Chanes, L., Xia, C., Simmons, W. K., Quigley, K. S., Dickerson, B. C., & Feldman Barrett, L. (2017). Evidence for a large-scale brain system supporting allostasis and interoception in humans. Nature Human Behaviour , 1 (5). https://doi.org/10.1038/s41562-017-0069 Mattes, A., Mück, M., & Stahl, J. (2023). Perfectionism-related variations in error processing in a task with increased response selection complexity. *Personality neuroscience*, *5*, e12. https://doi.org/10.1017/pen.2022.3 Sullivan, W. T. (1990). Outward Searchers: SETI Pioneers . Scientists Talk about Their Search for Extraterrestrial Intelligence. DAVID W. SWIFT. University of Arizona Press, Tucson, 1990. xiv, 436 pp., illus. $35. Science , 250 (4978), 303–303. https://doi.org/10.1126/science.250.4978.303-a Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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Access Your Abilities in a Way Burnt Out You Could Never Compete With 18:36

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You’re doing everything right. You’re ambitious, successful + driven. So why is it your energy is nonexistent, patience is razor-thin + your mind can't stop overthinking? If your days are starting with dread and ending in exhaustion — this episode is your wake-up call. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or accessing your abilities in a way burnt out you could never compete with, Perfectionism Optimized , private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire In this Episode You’ll Learn: How pushing through dewires your brain into survival mode What caffeine, people pleasing + Top Ramen have in common 16 surprising signs your brain is starving Why ruminating and indecisiveness are symptoms—not problems to solve How a healthy Person Account™ allows you to access your abilities in a way burnt out you could never compete with Resources Mentioned In Episode 253: Recharge your Person Account Book your Perfect Start 1:1 session now Magic Skill for Control of Emotions [Neuroscience Series #1] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 248 How Perfectionist Brain *Actually* Works [Neuroscience Series #2] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 249 Can't Stop Ruminating? Here's Why [Neuroscience Series #3] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 250 Neuroplasticity [Neuroscience Series #4] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 251 #1 Thing Stops Perfectionists From Growth [Neuroscience Series #5] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 252 TIMESTAMPS: 02:09-Why Perfectionists Need More Fuel for Our Brains 04:10-MYTH: You Have to Stop Being a Perfectionist 06:24-Clues You’re on the Path to Chronic Stress 09:32-Burn Out is Not the Price of Ambition 10:25-Case Study: How Stacey found Clarity, Energy, Peace 12:43-I Ruminate Over Decisions bc I Need to Make the Right Decision 14:05-Why You’re Choosing Instant Relief (and Paying Later) 16:11-A Healthy Person Account™ = Liberation 17:32-How to Always Know How Your Person Account™ is Doing Citations/Sources: Barrett, L. F. (2017). How emotions are made: The secret life of the brain. Houghton Mifflin Harcourt. Barrett, L. F., Quigley, K. S., & Hamilton, P. (2016). An active inference theory of allostasis and interoception in depression. *Philosophical Transactions of the Royal Society B: Biological Sciences*, *371*(1708), 20160011. https://doi.org/10.1098/rstb.2016.0011 Bobba-Alves, N., Juster, R.-P., & Picard, M. (2022). The energetic cost of allostasis and allostatic load. Psychoneuroendocrinology , 146 , 105951. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.psyneuen.2022.105951 Dwyer, P. (2022). The Neurodiversity Approach(es): What Are They and What Do They Mean for Researchers? Human Development , 66 (2), 73–92. https://doi.org/10.1159/000523723 Ganzel, B. L., & Morris, P. A. (2011). Allostasis and the developing human brain: Explicit consideration of implicit models. Development and Psychopathology , 23 (4), 955–974. https://doi.org/10.1017/s0954579411000447‌ Guidi, J., Lucente, M., Sonino, N., & Fava, Giovanni A. (2020). Allostatic Load and Its Impact on Health: A Systematic Review. Psychotherapy and Psychosomatics , 90 (1), 11–27. https://doi.org/10.1159/000510696 Kleckner, I. R., Zhang, J., Touroutoglou, A., Chanes, L., Xia, C., Simmons, W. K., Quigley, K. S., Dickerson, B. C., & Feldman Barrett, L. (2017). Evidence for a large-scale brain system supporting allostasis and interoception in humans. Nature Human Behaviour , 1 (5). https://doi.org/10.1038/s41562-017-0069 Knezevic, E., Katarina Nenic, Milanovic, V., & Knezevic, N. N. (2023). The Role of Cortisol in Chronic Stress, Neurodegenerative Diseases, and Psychological Disorders. Cells , 12 (23), 2726–2726. https://doi.org/10.3390/cells12232726‌ McEwen, B. S., & Gianaros, P. J. (2011). Stress- and Allostasis-Induced Brain Plasticity. Annual Review of Medicine , 62 (1), 431–445. https://doi.org/10.1146/annurev-med-052209-100430 Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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The #1 Thing That Stops Perfectionists from Growth 16:58

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Feel like you're working hard but not seeing the progress you want? It's NOT YOU or your PERFECTIONISM – it's your Person Account™ . Discover my proprietary framework that’s changing the game for Perfectionist Solution’s clients, and will do the same for you. In this Episode You’ll Learn: How ruminating + running a 10k impact you the exact same way Why perfectionist brains work overtime + cost more to operate How to tell if you’re operating in a constant state of depletion without realizing it What Cortisol actually is (it's NOT a STRESS HORMONE) The hidden reason therapy + personal development don't work On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized , private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire Resources Mentioned In Episode 252: Perfect Start Session Magic Skill for Control of Emotions [Neuroscience Series #1] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 248 How Perfectionist Brain *Actually* Works [Neuroscience Series #2] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 249 Can't Stop Ruminating? Here's Why [Neuroscience Series #3] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 250 TIMESTAMPS: 0:53-Why You're Not Making Progress Despite Trying Harder 02:15-Allostasis: How Your Brain Allocates 05:07-The Hidden Reason Therapy Isn’t Working 06:30-Why Perfectionist Brains Cost More to Operate 07:25-Living in a Depleted State Without Realizing It 09:31-Stressed out: Eustress vs. Distress 10:29-Truth about Cortisol + Stress Response 12:35-The Slow Drip of Perfectionist Burnout 15:17-How to Tell if You’re Running on Empty Citations/Sources: Barrett, L. F. (2017). How emotions are made: The secret life of the brain. Houghton Mifflin Harcourt. Bobba-Alves, N., Juster, R.-P., & Picard, M. (2022). The energetic cost of allostasis and allostatic load. Psychoneuroendocrinology , 146 , 105951. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.psyneuen.2022.105951 Dwyer, P. (2022). The Neurodiversity Approach(es): What Are They and What Do They Mean for Researchers? Human Development , 66 (2), 73–92. https://doi.org/10.1159/000523723 Ganzel, B. L., & Morris, P. A. (2011). Allostasis and the developing human brain: Explicit consideration of implicit models. Development and Psychopathology , 23 (4), 955–974. https://doi.org/10.1017/s0954579411000447‌ Guidi, J., Lucente, M., Sonino, N., & Fava, Giovanni A. (2020). Allostatic Load and Its Impact on Health: A Systematic Review. Psychotherapy and Psychosomatics , 90 (1), 11–27. https://doi.org/10.1159/000510696 Kleckner, I. R., Zhang, J., Touroutoglou, A., Chanes, L., Xia, C., Simmons, W. K., Quigley, K. S., Dickerson, B. C., & Feldman Barrett, L. (2017). Evidence for a large-scale brain system supporting allostasis and interoception in humans. Nature Human Behaviour , 1 (5). https://doi.org/10.1038/s41562-017-0069 Knezevic, E., Katarina Nenic, Milanovic, V., & Knezevic, N. N. (2023). The Role of Cortisol in Chronic Stress, Neurodegenerative Diseases, and Psychological Disorders. Cells , 12 (23), 2726–2726. https://doi.org/10.3390/cells12232726‌ McEwen, B. S., & Gianaros, P. J. (2011). Stress- and Allostasis-Induced Brain Plasticity. Annual Review of Medicine , 62 (1), 431–445. https://doi.org/10.1146/annurev-med-052209-100430 Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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Neuroplasticity 7:20

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On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized , private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire In this Episode You’ll Learn: How neuroplasticity works and why it’s crucial for perfectionists The surprising difference in brain flexibility before and after age 45 Real-life coaching breakthroughs that prove brain rewiring is possible Why *use it or lose it* is the key to changing perfectionist tendencies The fastest way to stop rumination, self-doubt and overanalyzing mistakes Resources Mentioned In Episode 251: Take your first step in rewiring Perfect Start Introductory Session Magic Skill for Control of Emotions [Neuroscience Series #1] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 248 How Perfectionist Brain *Actually* Works [Neuroscience Series #2] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 249 Can't Stop Ruminating? Here's Why [Neuroscience Series #3] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 250 TIMESTAMPS: 00:00-Why Age 45 Is a Brain Plasticity Tipping Point 01:07-Analogy for what is neuroplasticity 02:52-Rewire your brain with Perfect Start Session 05:29-Framework for Rewiring Perfectionism Inside Out 06:10-Transformative Effects of Cognitive Flexibility Citations/Sources: Cramer, S. C., Sur, M., Dobkin, B. H., C. O'Brien, Sanger, T. D., Trojanowski, J. Q., … Haber, S. (2011). Harnessing neuroplasticity for clinical applications. Brain , 134 (6), 1591–1609. https://doi.org/10.1093/brain/awr039 Fuchs, E., & Flügge, G. (2014). Adult Neuroplasticity: More Than 40 Years of Research. Neural Plasticity , 2014 , 1–10. https://doi.org/10.1155/2014/541870 Green, C. S., & Bavelier, D. (2008). Exercising your brain: A review of human brain plasticity and training-induced learning. Psychology and Aging , 23 (4), 692–701. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0014345 Isheqlou, L.K., Soltanlou, M., Zarean, M., Saeedi, M.T. and Heysieattalab, S. (2023). Feedback-related negativity in perfectionists: An index of performance outcome evaluation. Behavioural Brain Research , 444 , 114358–114358. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.bbr.2023.114358 Petersen, J., Ong, C. W., Hancock, A. S., Gillam, R. B., Levin, M. E., & Twohig, M. P. (2021). An Examination of the Relationship Between Perfectionism and Neurological Functioning. Journal of Cognitive Psychotherapy , 35 (3), 195–211. https://doi.org/10.1891/jcpsy-d-20-00037 ‌ Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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Can’t Stop Ruminating? Here's Why 21:51

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"Part of the reason I stay super busy is bc if I stop to rest l'll ruminate. And if I ruminate, I start spiraling. And if I spiraling I'm like a nosediving plane" Sound familiar? Discover the ANSWER to WHY you get stuck in your most annoying perfectionist tendencies, like ruminating, catastrophizing, overthinking every small mistake etc. Plus the 6 reasons your perfectionist brain holds on to outdated habits, how chronic stress impacts your brain’s ability to change, the role of back and white thinking in reinforcing unhelpful neural pathways, why past experiences trick your brain into seeing danger everywhere and how to stop your worries from becoming self-fulfilling prophecies. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized , private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire TIMESTAMPS: 00:00–How to finally take charge of ruminating 02:16–Missed the last episode? Here’s a quick recap 04:06–What happens when your brain gets it wrong 06:09–Why perfectionist brains resists learning from mistakes 07:40–6 sneaky reasons your brain ignores new info 08:23–How chronic stress keeps your brain stuck 10:20–Why your brain clings to old patterns 11:42–The hidden reason you avoid discomfort 12:51–When your brain blows things out of proportion 13:49–How black-and-white thinking is like wearing blinders 15:19–Why past experiences warp your reactions 19:34–How to update your brain so you can get unstuck 21:09–One small shift to start seeing change today The first step in rewiring Resources Mentioned In Episode 250: Take your first step in rewiring Perfect Start Introductory Session Magic Skill for Control of Emotions [Neuroscience Series #1] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 248 How Perfectionist Brain *Actually* Works [Neuroscience Series #2] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 249 When Taking A Few Deep Breaths Isn't Enough Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 192 Will Save Your Sanity(might change your life) Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 193 Citations/Sources: Bar, M. (2009). The proactive brain: memory for predictions. Philosophical Transactions of the Royal Society B Biological Sciences , 364 (1521), 1235–1243. https://doi.org/10.1098/rstb.2008.0310 Barrett, L. F., & Simmons, W. K. (2015). Interoceptive predictions in the brain. Nature Reviews Neuroscience , 16 (7), 419–429. https://doi.org/10.1038/nrn3950 Braem, S., Coenen, E., Klaas Bombeke, Bochove, van, & Wim Notebaert. (2015). Open your eyes for prediction errors. Cognitive Affective & Behavioral Neuroscience , 15 (2), 374–380. https://doi.org/10.3758/s13415-014-0333-4 Clark, A. (2013). Whatever next? Predictive brains, situated agents, and the future of cognitive science. Behavioral and Brain Sciences , 36 (3), 181–204. https://doi.org/10.1017/s0140525x12000477 Handley, A. K., Egan, S. J., Kane, R. T., & Rees, C. S. (2014). The relationships between perfectionism, pathological worry and generalised anxiety disorder. BMC Psychiatry , 14 (1). https://doi.org/10.1186/1471-244x-14-98 Kummer, K., Mattes, A. & Stahl, J. Do perfectionists show negative, repetitive thoughts facing uncertain situations?. Curr Psychol (2023). https://doi.org/10.1007/s12144-023-04409-3 Lital Yosopov, Saklofske, D. H., Smith, M. M., Flett, G. L., & Hewitt, P. L. (2024). Failure Sensitivity in Perfectionism and Procrastination: Fear of Failure and Overgeneralization of Failure as Mediators of Traits and Cognitions. Journal of Psychoeducational Assessment , 42 (6), 705–724. https://doi.org/10.1177/07342829241249784 Mattes, A., Mück, M., & Stahl, J. (2022). Perfectionism-related variations in error processing in a task with increased response selection complexity. Personality Neuroscience , 5 . https://doi.org/10.1017/pen.2022.3 ‌McNally, G. P., Johansen, J. P., & Blair, H. T. (2011). Placing prediction into the fear circuit. *Trends in Neurosciences*, *34*(6), 283–292. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.tins.2011.03.005‌ Meyer, A., & Wissemann, K. (2020). Controlling parenting and perfectionism is associated with an increased error-related negativity (ERN) in young adults. *Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience*, *15*(1), 87–95. https://doi.org/10.1093/scan/nsaa018 ‌Roy, M., Shohamy, D., Daw, N., Jepma, M., Wimmer, G. E., & Wager, T. D. (2014). Representation of aversive prediction errors in the human periaqueductal gray. *Nature Neuroscience*, *17*(11), 1607–1612. https://doi.org/10.1038/nn.3832 ‌ Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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Perfectionist Tendencies Begin In Your Brain 17:18

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Constantly overthinking? Still ruminating over that convo with your boss? You're not alone. Uncover how perfectionistic tendencies like being super rigid, people pleasing, over-preparing, excessively worrying — are actually signs your perfectionistic brain is misfiring. Plus, learn the neuroscience-backed solution to take charge of your perfectionist tendencies + start feeling better. TIMESTAMPS: 00:00-What Makes Perfectionistic Brains Unique 04:02-How Perfectionist Tendencies Operate 07:32-Neuroscience Behind Overthinking 09:25-Catastrophizing Your Way to Chronic Stress 10:37-Ruminating + Other Perfectionist Tendencies 11:58-Neuroplasticy to rewire the brain 14:03-What Gets In The Way of Rewiring 15:59-Black + White Thinking On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Perfectionism Optimized , private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today! Resources Mentioned In Episode 249: Perfect Start Introductory Session Single Coaching Session Catastrophizing Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 188 Catastrophize. Ruminate. Overthink. Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 216 Will Save Your Sanity(might change your life) Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 193 Citations/Sources: Braem, S., Coenen, E., Klaas Bombeke, Bochove, van, & Wim Notebaert. (2015). Open your eyes for prediction errors. Cognitive Affective & Behavioral Neuroscience , 15 (2), 374–380. https://doi.org/10.3758/s13415-014-0333-4 Handley, A. K., Egan, S. J., Kane, R. T., & Rees, C. S. (2014). The relationships between perfectionism, pathological worry and generalised anxiety disorder. BMC Psychiatry , 14 (1). https://doi.org/10.1186/1471-244x-14-98 Mattes, A., Mück, M., & Stahl, J. (2022). Perfectionism-related variations in error processing in a task with increased response selection complexity. Personality Neuroscience , 5 . https://doi.org/10.1017/pen.2022.3 ‌ ‌ Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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Tired of Feeling Overwhelmed? Start Here 22:05

12 weeks yang lalu22:05

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Feeling overwhelmed? Stressed out? Anxious? Being vague about your emotions is like saying you're "craving food" for dinner—utterly unhelpful! Your perfectionist brain needs precision to create the right action plan for you. Learn why labeling your emotions accurately is crucial for regulating your body's responses and the essential skillset all perfectionists need to understand their emotions. TIMESTAMPS: 01:08-Controlling of emotions 03:13-How to stop feeling overwhelmed 05:28-Muffin-Cupcake Experiment 07:54-Why Words Hold Physiological Power 09:48-Emotional Regulation skills 12:14-What the skill of emotional granularity buys you 14:23-How to rewire your brain 15:27-Becoming an Emotional Sommelier 18:52-How do you construct your emotions more accurately? On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Perfectionism Optimized , private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire Resources Mentioned In Episode 248: Perfect Start Introductory Session Single Coaching Session Avoiding Perfectionist Mistakes in Expressing Emotions Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 173 Will Save Your Sanity(might change your life) Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 193 Everything You Need to Know About Self Regulation as a Perfectionist Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 194 Citations/Sources: Barrett, L. F. (2017). How emotions are made: The secret life of the brain. Houghton Mifflin Harcourt. Barrett, L. F. (2016). The theory of constructed emotion: an active inference account of interoception and categorization. Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience , nsw154–nsw154. https://doi.org/10.1093/scan/nsw154 Barrett, L. F., Gross, J., Christensen, T. C., & Benvenuto, M. (2001). Knowing what you're feeling and knowing what to do about it: Mapping the relation between emotion differentiation and emotion regulation. Cognition and Emotion, 15 (6), 713–724. https://doi.org/10.1080/02699930143000239 ‌Crum, A. J., Corbin, W. R., Brownell, K. D., & Salovey, P. (2011). Mind over milkshakes: Mindsets, not just nutrients, determine ghrelin response. Health Psychology , 30 (4), 424–429. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0023467 Gendron, M., Lindquist, K. A., Barsalou, L., & Barrett, L. F. (2012). Emotion words shape emotion percepts. Emotion, 12 (2), 314–325. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0026007 Hoemann, K., Gendron, M., & Barrett, L. F. (2022). Assessing the Power of Words to Facilitate Emotion Category Learning. Affective Science, 3(1), 69–80. https://doi.org/10.1007/s42761-021-00084-4 Hoemann, K., Khan, Z., Kamona, N., Dy, J., Barrett, L. F., & Quigley, K. S. (2021). Investigating the relationship between emotional granularity and cardiorespiratory physiological activity in daily life. Psychophysiology , 58 (6). https://doi.org/10.1111/psyp.13818 Hoemann, K., Lee, Y., Kuppens, P., Gendron, M., & Boyd, R. L. (2023). Emotional Granularity is Associated with Daily Experiential Diversity. Affective Science , 4 (2), 291–306. https://doi.org/10.1007/s42761-023-00185-2 Hoemann, K., Nielson, C., Yuen, A., Gurera, J. W., Quigley, K. S., & Barrett, L. F. (2021). Expertise in emotion: A scoping review and unifying framework for individual differences in the mental representation of emotional experience. Psychological Bulletin , 147(11), 1159–1183. https://doi.org/10.1037/bul0000327 Satpute, A. B., Nook, E. C., Narayanan, S., Shu, J., Weber, J., & Ochsner, K. N. (2016). Emotions in "Black and White" or Shades of Gray? How We Think About Emotion Shapes Our Perception and Neural Representation of Emotion. Psychological science , 27(11), 1428–1442. https://doi.org/10.1177/0956797616661555 Westlin, C., Theriault, J. E., Yuta Katsumi, Nieto-Castanon, A., Kucyi, A., Ruf, S. F., … Barrett, L. F. (2023). Improving the study of brain-behavior relationships by revisiting basic assumptions. Trends in Cognitive Sciences, 27(3), 246–257. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.tics.2022.12.015 ‌ ‌ Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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The Right Way To Compare Yourself 23:39

14 weeks yang lalu23:39

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It’s impossible to stop self-comparison as a perfectionist. You.Are.Going.To.Compare.Yourself and here’s the best way to do it! Discover 6 empowering ways to rewire unhealthy self-comparisons, perfectionism trash trades, how to tell if you’re fear-based striving, live coaching on 4 IRL examples of comparing, the only skillset you need for this to work 100% of the time and a tool to instantly upgrade comparing yourself On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or becoming JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized , private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire TIMESTAMPS: 01:26-Choosing Your Response to Comparisons 03:07-The Skill Set of CAKE 05:41-Trash Trades in Perfectionism 06:55-Healthy vs. Unhealthy Comparisons 08:47-How to Reframe Self-Critical Thoughts 09:25-Breaking Free from Fear-Based Striving 10:49-Living in the Present, Not the Future 15:52-What Self-Comparisons Actually Reveal 17:39-Tool to instantly upgrade comparing yourself 21:48-How Tiny, Mighty Progress Fuels You Resources Mentioned In Episode 247: Perfect Start Introductory Session Single Coaching Session Comparing Yourself [PART ONE] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 245 How Can I Stop Comparing Myself [PART TWO] Perfectionism Rewired Eo. 246 Meeting Yourself Where You Are Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 187 Will Save Your Sanity(might change your life) Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 193 Citations/Sources: Olson, J. M., Buhrmann, O., & Roese, N. J. (2000). Comparing Comparisons. Handbook of Social Comparison , 379–398. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-1-4615-4237-7_18 Sirois, F.M., Monforton, J. and Simpson, M. (2010) "If Only I Had Done Better": Perfectionism and the Functionality of Counterfactual Thinking. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin , 36 (12). 1675 - 1692. ISSN 0146-1672 https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167210387614 Stoeber, J., & Diedenhofen, B. (2017). Multidimensional perfectionism and counterfactual thinking: Some think upward, others downward. Personality and Individual Differences , 119 , 118–121. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.paid.2017.07.009 ‌ ‌ Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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How Can I Stop Comparing Myself 23:45

15 weeks yang lalu23:45

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Tactical "stop it" approaches to self-comparison DO NOT WORK for perfectionists. Find out WHY along with the hidden costs of comparing yourself, why the approach you’ve taken to stopping self-comparison hasn't worked, what you actually need to do and scientifically what causes perfectionists to have an even harder time than non-perfectionistic people in rewiring this habit. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or becoming JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized , private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire TIMESTAMPS: 00:00-Why self comparison tactics fail perfectionists 01:41-The hidden costs of comparing yourself 06:31-Recognize self comparison as a type of self punishment. 10:11-Why intellect isn't enough to rewire perfectionist tendencies 12:13-Developing skill sets over gathering knowledge 15:00-Why it's scientifically harder for perfectionists to stop unhealthy self-comparison 16:08-Acceptance vs. judgment in rewiring perfectionism 18:00-What Silver vs. bronze medalists show us about comparing yourself to others 21:30-Choosing growth over fear of failure Resources Mentioned In Episode 246: Perfect Start Introductory Session Single Coaching Session Comparing Yourself (pt.1) Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 245 Discovering Your Hidden Motivators Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 80 Intrinsic Motivational Patterns Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 66 Citations/Sources: Curran, T., & Hill, A. P. (2019). Perfectionism is increasing over time: A meta-analysis of birth cohort differences from 1989 to 2016. Psychological Bulletin , 145 (4), 410–429. https://doi.org/10.1037/bul0000138 Sirois, F.M., Monforton, J. and Simpson, M. (2010) "If Only I Had Done Better": Perfectionism and the Functionality of Counterfactual Thinking. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin , 36 (12). 1675 - 1692. ISSN 0146-1672 https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167210387614 Stoeber, J., & Diedenhofen, B. (2017). Multidimensional perfectionism and counterfactual thinking: Some think upward, others downward. Personality and Individual Differences , 119 , 118–121. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.paid.2017.07.009 ‌ ‌ Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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Comparing Yourself 22:30

15 weeks yang lalu22:30

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Comparing yourself all the time? Tired of feeling like you never quite measure up...no matter how much you accomplish? It's not just YOU! Discover the sneaky specific ways self-comparison shows up for perfectionists, the difference between self-awareness + self-coaching, why self-comparison is not your fault but is your responsibility to change. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or becoming JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized , private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire TIMESTAMPS: 00:00-How you can stop comparing yourself to others 02:32-The Annoying Problem with Surface-Level Self Comparison Tips 03:46-Self Awareness vs. Self Coaching: What's the Difference? 05:34-Dangers of DIY Approaches to Rewiring Perfectionism 07:25-Why “How To Stop COmparing Yourself To Others” tips backfire for perfectionists 12:10-Comparing Insides to Outsides Never Adds Up 14:13-Moving the goalposts 17:49-Punishment vs. Discipline: Changing Behaviors without Pain 19:31-Understanding the Why Behind Your Perfectionistic Tendencies Resources Mentioned In Episode 245: Perfect Start Introductory Session Single Coaching Session Be Proud of Yourself Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 237 Chasing Validation Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 236 Proving Yourself At Work Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 232 Citations/Sources: McCarthy, P. A., Meyer, T., Back, M. D., & Morina, N. (2023). How we compare: A new approach to assess aspects of the comparison process for appearance-based standards and their associations with individual differences in wellbeing and personality measures. PLOS ONE , 18 (1), e0280072–e0280072. https://doi.org/10.1371/journal.pone.0280072 White, J. B., Langer, E. J., Yariv, L., & Welch, J. C. (2006). Frequent Social Comparisons and Destructive Emotions and Behaviors: The Dark Side of Social Comparisons. Journal of Adult Development , 13 (1), 36–44. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10804-006-9005-0 Zhou, Y., Yang, Y., Jiang, H., & Guo, C. (2025). Self-comparison versus social-comparison: The impact of imperfection on executive function in perfectionists. Personality and Individual Differences, 234, 112965. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.paid.2024.112965 ‌ ‌ Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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Overexplaining 23:41

28 weeks yang lalu23:41

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Tired of getting tangled in your own words? Overcomplicating it? Asking "Does that make sense?" at the end of every sentence? Discover why you can't stop talking (even though you REALLY want to), the science behind overexplaining for perfectionists, how overexplaining is harmful to your health mentally, emotionally and physically, and why its a coping skill you want to retire ASAP. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or becoming JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized , private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized TIMESTAMPS: 00:00-Understanding the Science Behind Overexplaining 02:24-Why Perfectionists Are More Likely To Overexplain 05:18-Control Tactics and Overexplaining 08:46-Self Worth vs. Self Esteem 12:32-The Emotional Charge Behind Overexplaining 14:02-Toll of Overexplaining on Mental + Physical Health 16:18-How Interoception Kills The Need To Overexplain 20:39-TRUTH BOOTH What Overexplaining Really Is 22:33-Steps to Resilience and Reducing Overexplaining Resources Mentioned In Episode 244: Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 Private Coaching Impeccable Boundaries Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 239 Care-ing vs Carrying Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 202 Interoception + Self-Regulation Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 194 Inner Critic Be-Gone Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 212 Emotional Overexplaining Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 173 Proving Yourself At Work Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 232 Citations/Sources: Barrett, L. F., & Simmons, W. K. (2015). Interoceptive predictions in the brain. Nature Reviews. Neuroscience, 16(7), 419–429. https://doi.org/10.1038/nrn3950 ‌Price, C. J., & Hooven, C. (2018). Interoceptive Awareness Skills for Emotion Regulation: Theory and Approach of Mindful Awareness in Body-Oriented Therapy (MABT). Frontiers in Psychology , 9 . https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2018.00798 Ventura-Bort, C., Wendt, J., & Mathias Weymar. (2021). The Role of Interoceptive Sensibility and Emotional Conceptualization for the Experience of Emotions. Frontiers in Psychology, 12. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2021.712418 ‌ Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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Needing to Be 100% Certain + Uncertainty Avoidance 8:07

31 weeks yang lalu8:07

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Craving Certainty? Need to be absolutely 100% sure before making a move? You’re not alone. In this episode, I unravel why the struggle of dealing with uncertainty holds high performance perfectionists back, how to recognize uncertainty avoidance in your own life and tools to take control of the fear, uncertainty and doubt (so it stops controlling you!). Discover practical strategies to break free from the cage of high uncertainty avoidance and gain the confidence to move forward, before every detail is known. Ready to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create? Waiting for the right time won't get you there. Uncover how to joyfully play in the arena of your life by rewiring your perfectionistic tendencies inside Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching, designed exclusively for perfectionists and gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized TIMESTAMPS: 00:00-High Uncertainty Avoidance 00:40-What Perfectionists ARE Secretly in Control Of 01:36-Why Perfectionists Crave Certainty 02:21-Examples of Uncertainty 03:39-The Myth of Ironclad Certainty 04:47-Uncertainty Tolerance is a Learnable Skill 05:34-Making Good Decisions 06:50-Moving Forward Even When You Don't Know The Outcome 07:27-Rewiring Perfectionism from the Inside Out Resources Mentioned In Episode 243: Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 Private Coaching Impeccable Boundaries Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 239 Fixed Mindset Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 234 Unlearning Learned Helplessness Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 202 Citations/Sources: Anderson, E. C., R. Nicholas Carleton, Diefenbach, M., & Paul. (2019). The Relationship Between Uncertainty and Affect. Frontiers in Psychology, 10. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2019.02504 Reis-Dennis, S., Gerrity, M. S., & Geller, G. (2021). Tolerance for Uncertainty and Professional Development: a Normative Analysis. Journal of General Internal Medicine, 36(8), 2408–2413. https://doi.org/10.1007/s11606-020-06538-y Seif, M. N., & Winston, S. M. (2019). Needing to Know For Sure: A CBT-Based Guide to Overcoming Compulsive Checking and Reassurance Seeking . New Harbinger Publications. ‌ Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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Waiting For the Right Time 8:45

31 weeks yang lalu8:45

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Are You Waiting for the Right Time? It’s time to stop waiting for the perfect time. Feeling 100% ready (or whatever ideal set of conditions you’ve been waiting for) is an illusion that keeps you from taking charge of your life right now. Learn how to recognize if you’re giving your power over to ideal circumstances and how to take control. Ready to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create? Waiting for the right time won't get you there. Uncover how to joyfully play in the arena of your life by rewiring your perfectionistic tendencies inside Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching that gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Resources Mentioned In Episode 241: Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 Private Coaching Impeccable Boundaries Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 239 Fixed Mindset Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 234 Unlearning Learned Helplessness Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 202 Citations/Sources: Leclerc, F., Schmitt, B. H., & Dube, L. (1995). Waiting Time and Decision Making: Is Time like Money? Journal of Consumer Research , 22 (1), 110–110. https://doi.org/10.1086/209439 ‌Osuna, E. E. (1985). The psychological cost of waiting. Journal of Mathematical Psychology, 29 (1), 82–105. https://doi.org/10.1016/0022-2496(85)90020-3 Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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How to Get More Confidence (Instead of Waiting For It) 10:17

31 weeks yang lalu10:17

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Ever wish you had more confidence? Too many driven perfectionists wait for more confidence before making bold moves, mistaking insecurity for preparation. But waiting is killing your confidence slowly. 'm clearing up all the confusion around getting more confidence so you can stop waiting for it to show up and giving you the exact formula to get more confidence today! Ready to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create? Waiting for more confidence on the sidelines won't get you there. Uncover how to joyfully play in the arena of your life by rewiring your perfectionistic tendencies inside Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching that gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Resources Mentioned In Episode 241: Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 Private Coaching Impeccable Boundaries Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 239 Fixed Mindset Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 234 Unlearning Learned Helplessness Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 202 Citations/Sources: Bandura, A. (1977). Self-efficacy: Toward a unifying theory of behavioral change. Psychological Review, 84 (2), 191–215. https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-295X.84.2.191 Katie Stringer Lucero, & Chen, P. (2020). What Do Reinforcement and Confidence Have to Do with It? A Systematic Pathway Analysis of Knowledge, Competence, Confidence, and Intention to Change. Journal of European CME , 9 (1), 1834759–1834759. https://doi.org/10.1080/21614083.2020.1834759 ‌ Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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What Happens When Perfectionists STOP WAITING FOR More Information 16:33

31 weeks yang lalu16:33

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Lifelong learner but not taking bold action? I used to wait for more time, more confidence, more certainty, more information, more money and more support. Then I’d get MORE of what I was waiting for….and still find excuses to keep waiting. Until one day I quit waiting for more. Find out why perfectionists love to wait for more, precisely how this keeps you stuck and what happens IRL when perfectionists stop waiting for more information. Ready to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create? Waiting for more on the sidelines won't get you there. Uncover how to joyfully play in the arena of your life by rewiring your perfectionistic tendencies inside Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching that gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Resources Mentioned In Episode 240: Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 Private Coaching Fixed Mindset Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 234 Unlearning Learned Helplessness Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 202 6 Self-Sabotaging Patterns Perfectionists Unknowingly Nurture Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 215 The Sneaky High Performance Habit Holding You Back Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 140 Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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Impeccable Boundaries - Your Path To Peace + Power 36:47

32 weeks yang lalu36:47

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Imagine feeling empowered, calm and grounded. You trust yourself. The incessant judgey voice in your head has been replaced with a witty, encouraging narrator. Your relationships built on truth. You say no to stuff you don’t want to do, without explanation. You take care of yourself FIRST. You've upgraded from exhausted to excited. Want that to be your reality? It starts with Impeccable Boundaries. Listen to learn how to create your own Impeccable Boundaries On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or becoming JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Listen to the full episode to hear: - Can impeccable boundaries actually exist in relationships with unconditional love? - Impeccable Boundary vs Ineffective Boundary - how do you actually go about creating impeccable boundaries - Why it's more challenging for a perfectionistic person to have impeccable boundaries. - Perks of impeccable boundaries - How who/what hurts you, can't heal you Resources Mentioned In Episode 239: Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 Private Coaching More You Control, Less Powerful You Feel Perfectionism Optimized Ep. 196 Care-ing vs Carrying Perfectionism Optimized Ep. 202 Everything You Need To Know About Self-Regulation As A Perfectionist Perfectionism Optimized Ep. 194 Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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It's Always Something! 3 Key Areas Perfectionists Must Fix to Stop Overwhelm 15:42

33 weeks yang lalu15:42

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Just as you finally get everything under control, life throws you ANOTHER curve ball. Seems like no matter what you do, you never get a moment of peace bc It’s Always Something. Discover exactly how to break down the elusive barriers that perpetually seem to get in the way of perfectionists and equip you with practical tools to let go of the chaos so you can navigate life’s unexpected twists without getting overwhelmed. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Listen to the full episode to hear: How where you source your confidence from determines how well you adapt to life's surprises Why resourcing yourself mentally, emotionally + physically enables you to handle unexpected challenges like a pro The secret to stop feeling like everything is always on your shoulders ( this is way better than deep breaths) Resources Mentioned In Episode 238: Neuroplasticity (Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 178) Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 Private Coaching Citations/Sources: Green, C. S., & Bavelier, D. (2008). Exercising your brain: A review of human brain plasticity and training-induced learning. Psychology and Aging , 23 (4), 692–701. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0014345 Kummer, K., Mattes, A. & Stahl, J. Do perfectionists show negative, repetitive thoughts facing uncertain situations?. Curr Psychol (2023). https://doi.org/10.1007/s12144-023-04409-3‌ Levine, S. (2003). Psychological and social aspects of resilience: a synthesis of risks and resources. Dialogues in Clinical Neuroscience , 5 (3), 273–280. https://doi.org/10.31887/dcns.2003.5.3/slevine Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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Be Proud of Yourself: Training Your Brain to SEE Your Value 14:28

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Discover why being proud of yourself is a mission critical skill for all perfectionists and how to rewire your brain to see your value. Un-learn the misconceptions currently getting in the way of you being proud of you and how to exit the inadequacy cycle. Thinking I don't have anything to be proud of? I'm giving you 5 reasons that you can be proud of yourself + the tool I use everyday to be proud of myself NO MATTER HAT I have or haven't accomplished. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized TIMESTAMPS: 00:00-Perfectionists + Valuing Yourself Beyond Achievements 01:52-Upgrading From "Being Successful to Be Proud Of You" 03:15-Why being proud is USEFUL SKILL for perfectionists 04:57-Living a life stuck in inadequacy 06:03-Fear of Losing Motivation if Proud Now 07:48-Finding something to be proud of: $3,000,000 challenge 08:31-Attaching productivity to proud aka POISON 09:50-Passive failing vs. active failing 11:17-Feeling proud without eradicating negative emotions 12:56-Shrinking the part of your brain that triggers stress SOURCES REFERENCED In Ep. 237 Fischer, J. (2012). Being Proud and Feeling Proud: Character, Emotion, and the Moral Psychology of Personal Ideals. The Journal of Value Inquiry , 46 (2), 209–222. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10790-012-9337-x Neff, K. D. (2009). The Role of Self-Compassion in Development: A Healthier Way to Relate to Oneself. Human Development , 52 (4), 211–214. https://doi.org/10.1159/000215071 Nepon, T. (2024). Perfectionism, Self-Image Goals and Compassionate Goals in Health and Mental Health: A Longitudinal Analysis - Taryn Nepon, Gordon L. Flett, Paul L. Hewitt, 2024. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/07342829241239997 Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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Confessions of an Approval Seeking Perfectionist: From Insecure to Empowered Oscar Winner 18:20

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Do compliments make you uncomfy? Tired of constantly achieving and never feeling satisfied? Discover the *real reason* you’re still chasing validation from other people (it has nothing to do with accomplishments or self-esteem) and how to stop relying on external praise + recognition. Perfectionism Optimized client, bravely shares her story of being an Oscar-winning superstar vying for attention, feeling undeserving of praise and constructing her whole life around getting approval (and avoiding rejection). Hear step-by-step how she dropped the fears of not being good enough + being judged by others, let go of needing anyone’s approval and rewired recognition on her own terms. If you want to make sure the Approval Trap never trips you up again, and want proven, science-backed tools to become SO CERTAIN about the value you bring, become RESILIENT + RESOURCEFUL during your most stressful moments and finally feel as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside, you belong inside Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Listen to the Full Episode To Hear: Why Achievements Feel Empty and How to Change That How lies we tell ourselves hold us back from seeing our own value Practical steps to start giving yourself the praise you deserve. Resources Mentioned: Decoding Your Unconscious Motivational Patterns (Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 80) Perfectionism Optimized : Patented, proven science-backed tools that help you take charge of your perfectionism and learn to celebrate your achievements the healthy way. Credible Scientific Sources Cited In Ep. 236 Burton, K. D., Lydon, J. E., D'Alessandro, D. U., & Koestner, R. (2006). The differential effects of intrinsic and identified motivation on well-being and performance: Prospective, experimental, and implicit approaches to self-determination theory. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 91(4), 750-762. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.91.4.750 Deci, E. L., & Ryan, R. M. (2015). Intrinsic Motivation and Self-Determination in Human Behavior. SpringerLink . https://doi.org/10.1007-978-1-4899-2271-7 Nepon, T. (2024). Perfectionism, Self-Image Goals and Compassionate Goals in Health and Mental Health: A Longitudinal Analysis - Taryn Nepon, Gordon L. Flett, Paul L. Hewitt, 2024. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/07342829241239997 Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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How to Stop Feeling Guilty (lessons from perfectionist parent) 16:37

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Tired of thinking about work during family time? Feeling guilty whenever work takes you away from your family? Learn step-by-step how to LET GO OF GUILT. Perfectionism Optimized client Nicole shares how she went from mom guilt overload to missing her kids' first day of school and her entire family celebrating it. Also, discover the why behind your guilt, cost of continuing to carry guilt and how other approaches to stop feeling guilty simply *don't work* for perfectionists. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Credible Scientific Sources Cited in Ep. 235: Flynn, F. J., & Schaumberg, R. L. (2012). When feeling bad leads to feeling good: Guilt-proneness and affective organizational commitment. Journal of Applied Psychology, 97 (1), 124–133. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0024166 Schaumberg, R. L., & Flynn, F. J. (2012). Uneasy lies the head that wears the crown: The link between guilt proneness and leadership. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology , 103 (2), 327–342. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0028127 Wiltermuth, S. S., & Cohen, T. R. (2014). “I’d only let you down”: Guilt proneness and the avoidance of harmful interdependence. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 107 (5), 925–942. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0037523 Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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What Fear of Failure is Masking 19:08

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You've been thinking about fear of failure all wrong. Get it right and find out what fear of failure is protecting you from, the underlying reasons behind fear of failure, the sneaky ways fear of failure shows up for perfectionists, what fear of failure really is (not good enough) why popular advice for overcoming fear of failure isn’t helpful for perfectionists and practical steps you can take today to dissolve this pattern. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family on vacation or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Episode 234 Timestamps: 00:57-Sneaky Ways Fear of Failure Shows Up For Perfectionists 02:32-What Are You Waiting For? 04:47-Protecting Subconscious Mind From Feeling Inadequate 05:40-Black and White Thinking 06:17-Fear of Inadequacy 07:44-Procrastination and Indecision 09:34-Surfing Through Fear of Failure 10:25-Growth vs Fixed Mindset 11:32-Cognitive Dissonance in Perfectionism 14:06-Solving and Evolving Through Mistakes 16:46-Discovering the Only Problem You Have + Solving It Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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The Crucial Role of Perfectionism Coaching for Women in Leadership 14:59

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Ever feel like you're constantly walking a tightrope? Expected to be confident but not too intimidating. Be assertive, but don't get aggressive. As women in leadership we've developed coping mechanisms to navigate these obstacles - like over-preparing, always getting it right and making sure we're well liked. These strategies have kept us afloat, but at what cost? Putting our careers ahead of our values, keeping one eye on the inbox even at the playground. So, how do we break free from this cycle? How do we burn bright without burning out and lead without losing ourselves? Your answers are inside this episode. . On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family on vacation or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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How Proving Yourself is Career Poison (+ the Cure for Unrivaled Growth) 8:50

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Discover why proving yourself is career poison, how to recognize the hidden, nuanced ways proving shows up (like when you put $$ in tip jar) and what lies beneath this constant pressure to constantly prove yourself. Finally get to the source of why even when you're at the top of your game, what's driving you to overwork, question your value and seek validation at every turn. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family on vacation or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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The REAL Reason Your Inner Critic Won't Shut Up 18:57

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Did I make the wrong choice? Why does this bother me so much? Am I letting them down? What if I fail? Spinning in self-judgement and second guessing every small move you make, your brain won't stop replaying magnifying your mistakes. Find out the REAL reason your inner critic won't shut up and how to start asking better questions so you can feel better right NOW. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family on vacation or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Resources Mentioned In Ep. 231 Episode on t he science of how your brain answers questions (Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 39) Questions To Ask Yourself For Instant Excellence (Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 23) Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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Feeling Clenchy? Fascinating Connection Btwn Your Pelvic Floor + Perfectionism 19:06

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Discover the clues you’re clenching that you’d NEVER GUESS are rooted in your perfectionistic tendencies. Plus how Perfectionism Optimized client Molly reversed her Osteoporosis diagnosis and regained her sex drive. Learn why we clench, what’s happening inside your body + brain, the 5 core pillars key to releasing the clench You don't have to white knuckle your perfectionism. And if you feel like you are, I invite you to come coach with me 1-on-1 inside Perfectionism Optimized , where you'll learn how to take charge of your perfectionistic tendencies, which means you'll finally feel as awesome as your life looks and stop trying to control everyone in your orbit. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Perfectionism Rewired ep. 411 on Fascia https://perfectionismrewired.com/episode/fascia-the-missing-puzzle-piece-for-perfectionists Truth + Accuracy Brought To You By: Chiara Ghetti, Skoczylas, L. C., Oliphant, S. S., Nikolajski, C., & Lowder, J. L. (2015). The Emotional Burden of Pelvic Organ Prolapse in Women Seeking Treatment. Female Pelvic Medicine & Reconstructive Surgery , 21 (6), 332–338. https://doi.org/10.1097/spv.0000000000000190 Khan, Z. A., C. Whittal, S. Mansol, Osborne, L. A., Reed, P., & Emery, S. (2013). Effect of depression and anxiety on the success of pelvic floor muscle training for pelvic floor dysfunction. Journal of Obstetrics and Gynaecology , 33 (7), 710–714. https://doi.org/10.3109/01443615.2013.813913 Taple, B. J., Griffith, J. W., Weaver, C., & Kenton, K. S. (2020). Enhancing behavioral treatment for women with pelvic floor disorders: Study protocol for a pilot randomized controlled trial. Contemporary Clinical Trials Communications , 17 , 100514–100514. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.conctc.2019.100514 Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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How to Prevent Passing Anxiety on to Your Kids 15:41

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Signs you’re programming your kids for anxiety without knowing it, how children pick up anxiety from perfectionistic parents, why traditional methods like therapy are 15x slower at achieving results, what *actually works* for caring, busy, perfectionist parents who want a physiology of excellence and how developing a physiology of excellence gives you unrivaled resilience, presence, and emotional intelligence On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Preventing passing of anxiety to your kids starts with understanding how your own physiology affects theirs. Children are always parroting you, especially how you carry worry, anxiety and guilt. Making it vital to learn how to metabolize your emotions efficiently with daily practices instead of shutting down or sweeping it under the rug. Learn how implementing a daily hygiene practice, like the patented E.P.I.C. Skills framework, you free up energy for what matters most and create a healthier environment for your whole family. Perfectionism Rewired episode 411 on Fascia https://perfectionismrewired.com/episode/fascia-the-missing-puzzle-piece-for-perfectionists Truth + Accuracy Brought To You By: Bordoni, B., & Simonelli, M. (2018). The Awareness of the Fascial System. Curēus . https://doi.org/10.7759/cureus.3397 Langevin, H. M. (2022). Making Connections to Improve Health Outcomes - Helene M. Langevin, 2022. Retrieved June 22, 2024, from Global Advances in Health and Medicine website: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/2164957X221079792 Lesondak, D. (2018, April 6). Fascia: What it is and Why it Matters. Retrieved June 22, 2024, from ResearchGate website: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/324261326_Fascia_What_it_is_and_Why_it_Matters Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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Fascia: The Missing Puzzle Piece for Perfectionists 12:28

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Fascia is the Wi-Fi of your insides, with over 250 million sensory receptors weaving through its matrix - it’s how emotions are made and where we feel our sensations, instincts and intuition. But if you tend to overthink, ruminate, catastrophize or stress out, you're compromising your fascia which impacts your body's ability to function optimally + think clearly. Discover why fascia is the missing puzzle piece for perfectionists and how to detect if there's dead zones in your own fascial network- where your sensations, instincts and intuition intersect. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized EP 228 TIMESTAMPS: 01:38-The Role of Fascia in Mental Clarity and Confidence 02:10-Where fascia is found and its impact on your body 03:03-Fascia's Role in Breaking Generational Belief Patterns 04:06-How fascia sends and receives information at the speed of light 05:01-Wi-Fi of your Insights + Intuition 06:10-What Skin is to Touch, Fascia is to Your Feelings 07:25-How To 10x Your Emotional Intelligence 09:18-The flexibility of fascia for quick improvements 10:15-Benefits of upgrading your fascia's communication system. Truth + Accuracy Brought To You By: Bordoni, B., & Marelli, F. (2017). Emotions in Motion: Myofascial Interoception. Complementary Medicine Research , 24 (2), 110–113. https://doi.org/10.1159/000464149 Bordoni, B., & Simonelli, M. (2018). The Awareness of the Fascial System. Curēus . https://doi.org/10.7759/cureus.3397 Fede, C., Petrelli, L., Guidolin, D., Porzionato, A., Pirri, C., Fan, C., … Stecco, C. (2021). Evidence of a new hidden neural network into deep fasciae. Scientific Reports , 11 (1). https://doi.org/10.1038/s41598-021-92194-z Palomero-Gallagher, N., & Katrin Amunts. (2021). A short review on emotion processing: a lateralized network of neuronal networks. Brain Structure & Function , 227 (2), 673–684. https://doi.org/10.1007/s00429-021-02331-7 ‌ Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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The Most Important De-Stress Skill for Perfectionists 11:57

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Stressed out, frustrated or having trouble sleeping? Stress is physiological for perfectionists and our physiological stress impacts our brain, our ability to speak, to think and our emotional agility. So if you want to have the ability to take charge of perfectionism, you gotta solve stress at the source. Bc you don't have time to do 20 minutes of deep breathing when stressors pop up, you need a personalized process that works instantaneously fast. And that's the first thing I teach Perfectionism Optimized clients, how to de-stress level in any moment, so they can get back in charge. Discover how to solve stress at the source and the exact clues to identify if you need a process to help you handle your stress ASAP. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Apply today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Mentioned In This Episode: Why Perfectionists Burnout (Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 176) When Deep Breaths Aren't Enough (Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 192) EP 227 TIMESTAMPS: 00:00-The Most Important De-Stress Skill Nobody Taught You 00:47-Why Intellectual Solutions Don't Ease Stress 02:10-The Impact of Stress on the Body's Systems 03:55-The Looming Shadow of Chronic Stress 06:38-Recognizing Stress Eruptions 07:30-Patterns of Self-Destructive Stress Behavior 09:48-Physical Manifestations of Unresolved Stress 11:17-Rewiring Perfectionistic Habits Truth + Accuracy Sources: Chu, B., Marwaha, K., Sanvictores, T., Awosika, A. O., & Ayers, D. (2024, May 7). Physiology, Stress Reaction. Retrieved June 14, 2024, from Nih.gov website: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK541120/ Handley, A. K., Egan, S. J., Kane, R. T., & Rees, C. S. (2014). The relationships between perfectionism, pathological worry and generalised anxiety disorder. BMC Psychiatry , 14 (1). https://doi.org/10.1186/1471-244x-14-98 Larijani, Roja, and Mohammad Ali Besharat. “Perfectionism and Coping Styles with Stress.” Procedia—Social and Behavioral Sciences 5 (2010): 623–27. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.sbspro.2010.07.154 Sirois, F. M., J. Monforton, and M. Simpson. “If Only I Had Done Better: Perfectionism and the Functionality of Counterfactual Thinking.” Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin 36, no. 12 (2010): 1675–92. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167210387614 . Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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From Pushing Through To Presence (lessons from perfectionist architect) 12:04

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Racing through your days on hyper-speed but still not present for any of it? Discover how high-achieving architect Jessica went from pushing through "everything will be better once..." to being present during the most challenging time of her life, her mother’s passing. Hear from Jessica how Perfectionism Optimized coaching gave her the tools to stop the worry/wish cycle, metabolize her stress an handle excruciating times with confidence and grace, and why it's "the best thing I've ever done for myself, I think, in my entire life." On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family on vacation or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Episode 226 Timestamps: 00:41-Pushing Through: Super Ineffective Perfectionistic Strategy 01:32-Recognizing Pushing Through in Your Own Life 03:00-The Exhausting Game of "Whack a Mole" 04:54-Chasing the Illusion of "Once It Gets Better" 05:54-Living in Fast Forward or Slow Motion 07:58-Being Present For Meaningful Moments 09:04-Fueling Fierce Ambition in a Grounded Way 10:53-How To Be More Present Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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On Vacation, Can't Relax 10:24

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Feeling like you can't relax on vacation? As perfectionists the way we relax is completely different than other people. Learn why and how to start relaxing on your own terms. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family on vacation or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Listen To The Full Episode To Learn: Why You Can't Relax on Vacation Step-by-step to stop putting pressure on yourself How to cultivate the skill of relaxing Episode 225 Timestamps: 00:00-Why Perfectionists Struggle to Relax on Vacation 01:45-Athleticism of Relaxing: Training Your Mind to Unwind 05:41-How can I clear my mind and relax 06:50-Dissolve Pressure and Anxiety While Relaxing 08:53-Getting an A+ in Relaxing as a Perfectionist Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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