Attached or connected? One is healthy, the other isn't

Dr Sarah: Relationship Success Lab

Let's talk about the muddy ground of what is an attachment vs connection:
Attachment styles, whether secure or insecure, are deeply rooted in the need for safety. Insecure attachments can be problematic, leading to patterns that are hard to break.

Attachments are not limited to interpersonal relationships; they extend to everything in our lives. Unhealthy attachments can emerge when we seek external things to fill internal insecurities. This pattern, rooted in a lack of safety, can lead to power imbalances.

On the other hand, connection involves maintaining ownership over one's power and control while appreciating and embracing differences in others. True connection is about understanding that the true power lies within oneself, making autonomous choices in alignment with personal values and purpose.

Attempting to shape a partner based on one's own preferences stems from unhealthy attachments, as it suggests a lack of acceptance of the partner's natural self. Connection, being a more healthy measure for relationships, involves observing and embracing the partner's characteristics without trying to change them. The episode encourages a shift from attachment to connection for healthier and more fulfilling relationships.

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