S1E13 Sarah’s Heaux Story: Dating after a 32-year Marriage, Fundamentalism, Finding Pleasure

Heauxly Coitus

I grew up as a Baptist missionary kid in South America and attended a notorious right wing Bible college. After seven children and 32 years, I pulled the rip cord in pursuit of my own happiness and integrity. When I left my marriage in May of 2021, I became homeless virtually overnight. The judge signed my divorce papers unexpectedly with no hearing the same day I presented them while I had been counting on a 6-week or so waiting period. My Uber-holy Christian ex gave me the boot because “we’re no longer married..so to protect my testimony, you must leave.” I walked out the door with a suitcase and no plan. A kind man I only knew from singing karaoke online, who was in upstate New York, said I could come stay a while. So I did. Y’all, it was like the parable of the widow’s mite. The poor guy had so little to offer, he was an alcoholic with major PTSD and had been abused by a girl as a child. His living conditions weren’t fabulous. But he gave me what he had: sex. Great, connected, lavish, beautiful, hot sex. Lots of it. He healed wounds in me I had never acknowledged and introduced me to erogenous zones I didn’t know existed. Trauma going back 30 years at least to my honeymoon… Because everything I was told was taboo, I just want to explore more. A heaux is anyone who is practicing autonomy over their body and sexual desires or lack thereof. For those interested in learning more about the differences in various fundamentalist organizations and viewpoints, check out this YouTube link. Follow, support, send love to @theviolentbareitaway. . Ms. Heauxly Coitus @heauxlycoitus 💦For Heaux T-shirts and mugs and bags: http://jenaya-global.myshopify.com 💦Come share your heaux story on the pod! Be the next guest. Inbox me, Ms. Heauxly Coitus @heauxlycoitus 💦For pictures, past episodes, and stories: https://heauxlycoitus.home.blog . ~To be a heaux is to engage in consensual sex, be kind your yourself and partner(s), creative, fully embodied, unapologetic, powerful, and free.~