2-09: Safer Kinky (and Vanilla) Sex, Consensual Nonconsent & Sex Education with Mx. Sizzle

Oral Arguments

This week we have on Mx. Sizzle (they/them), sex and kink educator and professor of sexual health decision-making and intro to health disparities, with tons of fascinating knowledge to share. First, in the intro, Norma talks about NY’s “deepfake” law that was just signed by Governor Hochul. Then, we get to our guest. Mx. Sizzle talks about their start in purity culture and how they dove into sex education as a teen. They get into their period of domming for 8 years, and Norma and Mx. Sizzle discuss stigma around BDSM and how controlled power dynamics can be healing for survivors. They get into the term “hypersexuality,” when sex work can be empowering, and sexual health disparities. Mx. Sizzle tells us about RACKs (Risk Aware Consensual Kink) and the idea of safer sex practices, and lessons that can be applied from kink to “vanilla” sex. They talk about how to set boundaries, sub space, consensual nonconsent (AKA “rape fantasies”), consent accidents vs. violations and how they relate to restorative justice, sex toys, and why Mx. Sizzle opts out of gender completely.

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More on the Adult Survivors Act in NY:

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Articles Mentioned:

https://news.bloomberglaw.com/in-house-counsel/n-y-outlaws-unlawful-publication-of-deepfake-revenge-porn

https://www.cagoldberglaw.com/ai-update-fbi-deepfake-warning-and-new-ny-law/