45. High achievers

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I’m the assistant coach on my son’s little league team this season. And I’m noticing the proclivity of parents (myself included at times) to demand excellence. I link this back to when I was young and noticed that my brother’s naturally high achieving abilities never got lectured. But I was lectured ALLLL the time. So I started achieving more, and more, and more and yet the lectures never stopped. I was chronically stressed out about my performance. I linked achievement to connection and hoped that with enough I’d be free of the lectures.

I ultimately transferred this chaotic energy into eating disorders, workaholism, perfectionism and a lot of self criticism.

This baseball season has been a great learning moment for me because it’s allowed me to remember this pressure and reframe what I’m encouraging and what I’m letting go of.

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