How to Stop Gaslighting Yourself with Ingrid Clayton

Writing Your Resilience: Building Resilience, Embracing Trauma and Healing Through Writing

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Ingrid Clayton joins the Writing Your Resilience podcast to talk about Complex PTSD, how narcissistic abuse leads to self-gaslighting, its impact on the writing process, and how Ingrid confronted these experiences while writing her memoir Believing Me.

Here’s a list of questions to ponder as you follow along: Have you ever doubted your own experiences? Have you ever felt like if you just did the right thing, you’d be good enough and the problems in your relationships would end? Is there something about yourself you struggle to believe in? While writing, have you considered what story your body wants to tell?

Ingrid Clayton’s Bio: While Ingrid has a clinical background, she believes there is no theory, diagnosis, or therapy that can replace the power of shared experience. Her recent memoir is written from the heart, where all our hurt lives—so it speaks the same language. In addition to raising her beautiful son, Ingrid believes that gaining the courage to write Believing Me is her greatest achievement to date.

Episode Highlights

5:00 Childhood trauma, gaslighting, and self-gaslighting

13:00 Writing a memoir and healing through the process

25:00 Trauma writing and grounding techniques for writers

38:00 Self-publishing vs traditional publishing

52:00 Self-publishing as a process of trusting myself

1:07 Healing trauma and self-expression

Resources Mentioned During this Episode:

• “What Is the Fawning Trauma Response?” by Ingrid Clayton
• “What Is Self-Gaslighting?” by Ingrid Clayton
• “Fix Your Partner” Instagram Reel
• Stand Up Therapy Variety Show Episode One
• Stand Up Therapy Variety Show Episode Two

Contact Ingrid:

Website: https://www.ingridclayton.com/

Instagram and YouTube: @IngridClaytonPhD

Get a free copy of her PDF on the fawning response: https://www.ingridclayton.com/fawningtraumaresponse

Get a copy of Believing Me: https://www.ingridclayton.com/books

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