217: How to end the video game struggles

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Video games can be tough.

Our kids enjoy them so much…but can’t tear their eyes away from them when time’s up without a meltdown.

Some games, like Fortnite and Roblox, can be really violent, and aren’t our kids learning bad messages when they play?

Plus even if they aren’t playing something violent, they aren’t really learning anything beneficial, right?

In this episode with @TheGamerEducator Ash Brandin and co-interviewer parent Nicole, we talk about common struggles parents have with kids who are playing games, including:

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• How to address dysregulation at the end of screen time
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• How to ‘scaffold’ the child’s ability to manage their own screen time
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• The links between screen time and intrinsic motivation
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• Why we can feel OK using screen time to give ourselves a break
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• How to model appropriate screen time use in front of our children
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Jump to Highlights

01:50Introducing the topic and guests for this episode03:17Moderate video game use generally has neutral or positive effects, contrary to earlier studies linking it to aggression.07:02Many studies linking video games to aggression overlook confounding factors like socioeconomic status, trauma, and family dynamics.

10:27Research on violent video games shows mixed results, with any negative effects often being minor and context-specific. It's important to consider individual responses when assessing impact.

27:47Effective screen time management involves setting limits, encouraging self-regulation, and gradually shifting responsibility to children while providing support.42:33Balancing gaming limits requires adjusting based on family needs and the child's ability to self-regulate, with ongoing assessment and adjustment.47:12Guilt about screen time often stems from concerns about not using time productively. It’s important to recognize that screens can benefit the whole family, allowing parents to manage tasks and take necessary breaks. 54:24Gaming meets psychological needs like competence and autonomy, which doesn’t diminish intrinsic motivation for other activities.01:01:48Model balanced screen use by explaining your tech use and setting clear limits. Show how screens help with tasks and emotions, and involve your kids in transitions.01:08:51Wrapping up the discussionReferences

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