#87 - Letting Go Of The Guy You Didn't Even Actually Date

The Single Spark with Chantelle the Coach (previously The Single Girl's Guide to Life)

Looking for advice on how to move on from a guy you never even officially dated?
In this episode, I delve into the power of the no contact rule and how it can help you let go of someone who was never really yours. I'll provide practical tips and strategies for letting go of unrequited love, navigating mixed signals, and overcoming the emotional attachment to someone you never even dated.
By following these strategies, you can gain emotional clarity and heal from the pain of unrequited love. Whether you're struggling to move on from a crush, a casual fling, or a complicated situation, this podcast episode is for you.
So tune in now to learn how to let go and find the love and happiness you deserve.
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0:18 - Introduction
1:09 - The No Contact Rule - What it is, and How and Why It Should Be Used
4:47 - The Emotional Stages of a Break-Up
5:15 - Cutting off the love hormones
6:43 - The "Enough is Enough" point
9:30 - The Challenges of The No Contact rule
14:41 - Cutting Off All Contact (Even if they keep messaging you)
20:31 - Tips for Success in Executing the No Contact Rule
25:15 - The No Contact Rule Q&A
28:08 - Stay away from a FWB situation
29:40 - Applying The No BS approach to dating

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1. #87 - Letting Go Of The Guy You Didn't Even Actually Date (00:00:00)

2. Introduction (00:00:18)

3. The No Contact Rule - What it is (00:01:09)

4. The No Contact Rule shouldn't be used as a gimmick (00:01:50)

5. This is the perfect tool for when you haven't been dating a guy for that long (00:03:30)

6. How to manage being upset by a break-up (00:04:47)

7. Cutting off the love hormones (00:05:15)

8. The "Enough is Enough" point (00:06:43)

9. Breaking the cycle of the highs and lows in dating (00:08:11)

10. The challenges of the no contact rule (00:09:30)

11. Second-guessing your decision (00:10:12)

12. Why you can't stay friends with them (00:11:16)

13. The problem with romanticising the past and/or future (00:12:14)

14. Separating yourself from the experience (00:12:52)

15. "But I just need closure" (00:13:22)

16. Cutting off all contact (00:14:41)

17. Why keeping them on social media is a problem (00:18:05)

18. What if they message me? (00:18:54)

19. Overcoming the temptation to contact them (00:20:31)

20. Valuing companionate forms of love (00:22:03)

21. There is nothing worse for a single person than not having plans (00:22:53)

22. Using a No Contact Rule habit tracker (00:23:33)

23. Find an accountability partner (00:24:40)

24. Can I start dating again during the No Contact period? (00:25:15)

25. What the No Contact Rule is for (00:26:25)

26. What to do at the end of the No Contact period (00:27:17)

27. Stay away from a FWB situation (00:28:08)

28. Applying The No BS approach to dating (00:29:40)