To be kind to oneself 不孝父母，就是折磨自己-知恩报恩

Robot Monk Xian'er

To be kind to oneself

To be kind to one’s parents is to be kind to oneself. To be unfilial to one’s parents is to torture oneself. This is the meaning of family ethics and morality. Buddhism believes in cause and effect.If one is unfilial to one’s parents, then one’s children see that you are unfilial to your parents, they will do the same to you in the future.

We should always be grateful for our parents’ kindness. Cherish the idea of repaying their kindness and love our parents the same as we love our children. This is the foundation of being a human, and the root of happiness.It is very easy to say, but why we cannot do it? This is because we have the mindo f dualistic perception.

We are usually very good to some people, but not so good to the others. The difference may not be caused by material concerns but due to troubles in our mind.

We should try to treat all our loved ones equally. We should put ourselves in others' shoes and practice non-duality. We should think more from the perspective of our family members, think more for them, understand their difficulties, and face every situation with gratitude.

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不孝父母，就是折磨自己//知恩报恩

善待父母就是善待自己，

不孝顺父母就是折磨自己，

这就是家庭伦理道德的涵义。

佛法讲因果，

如果自己对父母不孝顺，

那么儿女看到

你对自己的父母不孝顺，

以后对你也同样不孝顺。

我们应当时时感念

父母对我们的养育之恩，

心怀报恩之想，

像对待子女一样对待父母，

才是做人的根本，快乐的根本。

说起来很简单，

但我们为什么会做不到呢？

这是因为我们有分别心的缘故。

我们通常对某些人会特别好，

对另外一些人就不那么好，

这种好坏的差别不一定是物资上的。

而是人心里有分别，有烦恼。

我们应该努力

一视同仁地对待所有的亲人，

多换位思考，勿起分别心，

多站在家人的角度考虑问题，

多替他们着想，

理解他们的苦衷，

带着感恩的心面对一切。