Overgiving No More- Part 1: Recognizing the Four Patterns That Drain You | Episode 287

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I have always been a giver, but through recovery, I came to terms with the fact that I had been an overgiver. I felt obligated to drop everything and give to everyone at the drop of a hat, which was draining. However, through building healthy boundaries, I learned to give in a healthy way, pouring from the overflow instead of from an empty cup. This week’s episode 287 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is part 1 of Overcoming No More: Recognizing the Four Patterns That Drain You!

If you feel like you don’t know how to be in your life, be in your feelings, feel situated within yourself or how to be in relationships or organizations, it’s probably because you’re more focused on others than you are yourself. If this is you, you are a perfect candidate for Boundaries by Design: A Blueprint for Life, an 8-week structured course for women.

This group coaching program will give you the framework, coaching, and guidance to create a manual for your life. You’ll know where you end and others begin, what your responsibility is and what’s not, and what you like, want, need, and prefer.

Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:

• The difference between someone overgiving and someone just giving.
• Breaking down the 4 common patterns of people who overgive:
  • Misplaced outer focus.
  • Excessive independence.
  • Self-imposed limitations.
  • Ineffective communication.
• Examples of how each of these patterns might show up in your life.
• How building healthy boundaries helps you keep the focus on yourself and avoid overgiving.

Stay tuned for next week as I share how boundaries restore balance and energize your life.

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

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LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

Ep 3: Victim Mentality

Ep 10: My Tools of Recovery Part III: Focus On Me

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1. Overgiving No More- Part 1: Recognizing the Four Patterns That Drain You (00:00:00)

2. Barb’s shift from overgiving to strategic, chosen giving that comes from a place of abundance. (00:01:46)

3. Misplaced outer focus means being overly concerned with others' needs and thoughts, which leads to energy drain. (00:04:37)

4. Excessive independence is not asking for help and taking on too much responsibility, often with perfectionistic standards. (00:04:56)

5. Self-imposed limitations are unrealistic expectations, victim mentality, black-and-white thinking, pretending, and self-beat-up. (00:06:17)

6. Indirect communication involves not addressing issues directly and expecting others to know things without being told. (00:08:49)

7. Building healthy boundaries is a solution to dismantle over-giving patterns. (00:11:21)

8. Sustainable giving leads to less exhaustion and resentment and more energy. (00:14:06)