S3 E6 Tasha Ten Spotlight: Matt Stone - There Is No Such Thing As Win-Lose

The 'Inspire your Life' Podcast with Arthi Rabikrisson

On Episode 6 of Season 3, Arthi is joined by one of the newest Tasha Ten members, Matt Stone. Matt shares his perspectives on why the concept of win-lose is a fallacy. Matt shares this through his experiences as a family law attorney which led him to understand that instead of win-lose as the options we are familiar with in any situation, in the long run it is typically either win-win or lose-lose.

Witnessing disruptive separations that were often highly adversarial brought to the fore many of Matt’s own unhealed matters around loss and separation, which began the process of healing and making some key decisions as a result, which Matt shares such as career change, advice seeking, and forging your own path over time.

Matt stresses the importance of intrapersonal self-awareness in order to assist ourselves and those around us towards a long term win-win for everyone and shares key insights on what internal and external self-awareness levers can be used.

Some wise words from Matt:

• “ if [you] continue in an activity that goes so against what [you] believe…eventually it is going to be a massive reckoning, because you have to stay in a delusional state about yourself in order to cope for a while, in a situation where you're misaligned with who you really are”
• “Just because you can, doesn't mean you should”
• “we need a sustainable way of relating to each other if we're going to have a sustainable environment to live in”
• “Life is progress not perfection”

Listen to the full episode for so much more insights and ideas offered by my wonderful guest.

About Matt Stone:

Matt is the CEO of BehavioralOS®, a global agency that provides leaders with a proven method developed by an MIT behavioural scientist for proliferating the two most important ingredients for any company’s success: trust and respect. Matt draws on broad experience over twenty-five years as a business development professional, entrepreneur, and former practising attorney. He brings a global perspective to all of his engagements, having spent over fifteen years of his life living in Europe and Asia. He is an irrepressible optimist who believes strongly that in the business of life: we all either win together, or we all lose together.

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Chapter

1. S3 E6 Tasha Ten Spotlight: Matt Stone - There Is No Such Thing As Win-Lose (00:00:00)

2. Introduction (00:00:01)

3. About the Inspire Your Life Podcast (00:00:30)

4. About Matt Stone (00:01:11)

5. Welcome Matt (00:02:31)

6. Matt’s Early Life and Adventures (00:02:56)

7. There Is No Such Thing As Win-Lose (00:06:09)

8. Matts Experiences In Family Law (00:07:50)

9. The Win-Lose Mentality (00:09:40)

10. Separating Yourself From Your Work (00:10:53)

11. Knowing When To Leave A Situation (00:13:00)

12. The Importance Of Self-Awareness (00:17:14)

13. How To Be More Self Aware (00:18:32)

14. Short Term vs Long Term (00:20:14)

15. How To Move Towards A Win-Win Situation (00:22:15)

16. Matt's Biggest Lessons About Winning Together (00:24:33)

17. The Importance Of Patience (00:26:10)

18. Matts Definition Of Humility (00:27:56)

19. Lose Lose (00:30:25)

20. Whats Next For Matt? (00:32:08)

21. What Inspires Matt? (00:33:52)

22. Thank you Listeners! (00:35:34)