Why Do I Defend Him?

The Other Side of the Struggle (Healing from Betrayal Trauma)

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Uncover the hidden layers of protective instincts as we dissect the complex reasons why women often stand as the unsolicited shield for men in their lives. We'll venture into the terrain of the 'nice guy' archetype and the paradox of men with addictions, which we humorously yet thoughtfully categorize as mild, medium, and jalapeno. Each holds its own set of unique challenges that can strain the fabric of a relationship, and we're here to pull at those threads, revealing patterns you might recognize in your own life.
It's a nuanced dance of historical roles and psychological factors that lead women to defend their partners, sometimes against their better judgment. This episode peels back the layers of societal conditioning and the tug-of-war between survival instincts and the nurturing instinct. We put a spotlight on creating safe exit strategies, recognizing the courage it takes to trust one's instincts, and the resources available for those who need to leave with discretion. Our conversation also underscores the importance of not just being heard but of hearing oneself amidst the noise of societal expectations.
Wrapping up, we approach the vital topic of setting boundaries in relationships with finesse, examining how to communicate needs with respect and love rather than defense mechanisms. Sharing a powerful testimony from a client who learned to navigate these turbulent waters, we highlight the transformation possible when one stops defending and starts communicating. Join us for an episode that promises not just insights but empowerment, as we affirm the significance of staying true to oneself in the face of adversity and connection.

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Chapter

1. Defending Men Who Don't Need It (00:00:00)

2. Women Defending Men (00:08:25)

3. Navigating Relationships and Self-Defense (00:29:08)

4. Setting Boundaries in Relationships (00:41:29)