Ep 114: Understanding and Managing Maternal Rage: Insights and Strategies for Mothers with Nicole McNelis

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How often have you found yourself overwhelmed by a deep-seated rage that seems to come out of nowhere? This episode is a must-listen for every mother who has ever felt the weight of unexpressed anger. Licensed professional counselor Nicole McNelis joins us to share her invaluable insights into the phenomenon of maternal rage—a topic that is often hidden beneath the surface but profoundly impacts the lives of many mothers. Nicole's journey into researching maternal rage sheds light on its prevalence and the critical need for resources tailored to this unique form of anger.

As we discuss the stigmatization of female anger, you'll hear references to powerful works like "Rage Becomes Her" by Soraya Chemaly and "Mom Rage" by Minna Dubin. These books provide a deeper understanding of how societal norms exacerbate the issue by labeling female anger as hysteria, while male rage is often seen as acceptable. Nicole emphasizes that maternal rage isn't a sign of failure as a mother but a potent force that, when understood and managed, can lead to meaningful change. We also touch on practical strategies, such as involving children in chores, to help mitigate these intense emotions.

Finally, the episode explores actionable steps both on an individual and societal level to manage maternal rage. From cognitive strategies like identifying triggers to advocating for structural changes such as equitable distribution of household responsibilities and better access to mental healthcare, we cover it all. Nicole’s upcoming presentation for Postpartum Support International and the positive responses from her clients highlight the urgent need for ongoing conversations and collective action. Don't miss this empowering episode that aims to reshape societal views and provide real solutions for mothers everywhere.

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1. Ep 114: Understanding and Managing Maternal Rage: Insights and Strategies for Mothers with Nicole McNelis (00:00:00)

2. Maternal Rage (00:00:13)

3. Harnessing Maternal Rage for Change (00:09:05)

4. Exploring Triggers of Maternal Rage (00:19:42)

5. Understanding Maternal Emotional Labor (00:24:04)

6. Managing Maternal Rage (00:32:55)

7. Parenting Strategies and Structural Change (00:38:55)

8. Shifting Perceptions of Maternal Rage (00:44:04)